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<blockquote data-quote="Abbey" data-source="post: 173927" data-attributes="member: 179"><p>Katya...</p><p></p><p>You have some serious issues going on here. Enabling, alcoholism, and a 20 year old that has not moved on in life. Are there easy answers? No, but at some point you have to lay down the law. It's not easy as a parent to see your kid, actually he's <strong>NOT</strong> a kid, go down the toilet. But, at some point you have to detach and let them learn the hard way. We all did it and somehow survived to this point.</p><p></p><p>Now, on a less serious, but almost more important note, letting a 20 year old sit and play World of War Craft is ridiculous. The game is like heroin. If you Google it, you will see countless websites of people who have lost jobs, wives, etc., because of the game. Cut the computer cord.</p><p></p><p>Worst case scenario. He eats at a food bank and sleeps at a shelter. Is he going to die for that? No. It's called survival and what you need to do to get out of that. You get a low paying job, buy a $10 bike at a thift shop to go to work, and you work your arse off. Then you go to your second job with your bike.</p><p></p><p>Is it fun? Heck, no. But, I really feel that eventually you feel some personal pride of working so hard so it continues you on. If you always know there is the greener grass to fall back on...you will. And, he's falling back on the greener grass right now.</p><p></p><p>Abbey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Abbey, post: 173927, member: 179"] Katya... You have some serious issues going on here. Enabling, alcoholism, and a 20 year old that has not moved on in life. Are there easy answers? No, but at some point you have to lay down the law. It's not easy as a parent to see your kid, actually he's [B]NOT[/B] a kid, go down the toilet. But, at some point you have to detach and let them learn the hard way. We all did it and somehow survived to this point. Now, on a less serious, but almost more important note, letting a 20 year old sit and play World of War Craft is ridiculous. The game is like heroin. If you Google it, you will see countless websites of people who have lost jobs, wives, etc., because of the game. Cut the computer cord. Worst case scenario. He eats at a food bank and sleeps at a shelter. Is he going to die for that? No. It's called survival and what you need to do to get out of that. You get a low paying job, buy a $10 bike at a thift shop to go to work, and you work your arse off. Then you go to your second job with your bike. Is it fun? Heck, no. But, I really feel that eventually you feel some personal pride of working so hard so it continues you on. If you always know there is the greener grass to fall back on...you will. And, he's falling back on the greener grass right now. Abbey [/QUOTE]
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