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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 110146" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>Hi Elise,</p><p></p><p>Sorry you had such a crappy day - and Christmas Eve to boot! I agree with the others that send you caution regarding boarding up your son's room. If there were a fire, your son could not escape. There must be another solution. </p><p></p><p>I don't know how old your son is, but I don't personally believe that Christmas should be tied to behavior. If you believe in the religeous meaning of Christmas, we celebrate to mark the time when God sent us the ultimate gift of love. Gift giving is a symbol of that gift of love. Commercalism ahs overtaken this meaning for many, but the bottom line is that Christmas is not a reward. The "good and the bad" were given a gift. If you don't have a religious tradition tied to your holiday, it should be basically the same. No rewards given, just the joy and love that comes with giving. I believe, and please understand that his is my opinion, that not having Christmas gifts for your son will do so much more harm than good. </p><p></p><p>He obviously does not seem able to maintain. Your frustration is so totally understandable! The exasperation of dealing with an unstable difficult child day in and day out is overwhelming at times. </p><p></p><p>I know it is Christmas morning already and you and husband have made your decision regarding gifts. I also understand that noone understands our situation better then you who walk it. I do hope you are able to find a little joy and peace today with your children. Life is not a fairy tale or a tv show, I know I have been guilty of setting my expectations too high in regards to holiday traditions. Perhaps an hour of peace and quiet is a true gift!</p><p></p><p>Merry Christmas,</p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 110146, member: 805"] Hi Elise, Sorry you had such a crappy day - and Christmas Eve to boot! I agree with the others that send you caution regarding boarding up your son's room. If there were a fire, your son could not escape. There must be another solution. I don't know how old your son is, but I don't personally believe that Christmas should be tied to behavior. If you believe in the religeous meaning of Christmas, we celebrate to mark the time when God sent us the ultimate gift of love. Gift giving is a symbol of that gift of love. Commercalism ahs overtaken this meaning for many, but the bottom line is that Christmas is not a reward. The "good and the bad" were given a gift. If you don't have a religious tradition tied to your holiday, it should be basically the same. No rewards given, just the joy and love that comes with giving. I believe, and please understand that his is my opinion, that not having Christmas gifts for your son will do so much more harm than good. He obviously does not seem able to maintain. Your frustration is so totally understandable! The exasperation of dealing with an unstable difficult child day in and day out is overwhelming at times. I know it is Christmas morning already and you and husband have made your decision regarding gifts. I also understand that noone understands our situation better then you who walk it. I do hope you are able to find a little joy and peace today with your children. Life is not a fairy tale or a tv show, I know I have been guilty of setting my expectations too high in regards to holiday traditions. Perhaps an hour of peace and quiet is a true gift! Merry Christmas, Sharon [/QUOTE]
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