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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 110421" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>(MWM) is right - Dude is 17, not 7. True -there are differences in what happened to our family, your family and anyone else....BUT everyone here has children with behavior problems. </p><p></p><p>What your son has done - isn't right. At seven, telling you he knew what he was doing - is most likely his way of covering himself for behaviors he simply feels he can not control. So how do you help him learn to control those behaviors? Sometimes it's with doctors, sometimes with medicines - sometimes with diet. We all have choices, and you may want to believe that he can behave and just chooses not to. Then continue to feel sorry for him and make excuses & punish a child that doesn't understand himself. OR understand that a lot of members here would recommend a psychiatric. evaluation, some type of counseling where a professional can explain what is going on in his head, with his behaviors and give you a game plan to help him learn how to make good choices. </p><p></p><p>Locking him in his room like you said - isn't right or healthy either. In the long run it will create MORE problems for you and leave deep emotional scars for him. There IS however, learning how to communicate with a child who seems out of control and gaining parenting skills that go beyond "You do what I say or else." you may as well be speaking a foreign language - and threats accomplish nothing. </p><p></p><p>Even if you have to - take him to an emergency room and see if they can get him evaluated, and possibly placed in a hospital for a couple days while you regroup and maybe the social worker that gets assigned to him will have some resources for you all. </p><p></p><p>We're really here if you need us, and by the tone of your letter you need support. Don't think that anyone is judging you - your level of frustration and momentary solutions - are not going to work, and we just don't want to see your son or you hurt further. </p><p></p><p>Come back and let us know how it went. ps. If you do read about parenting styles - read about Totalitarian - you'll understand what we're saying. </p><p></p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 110421, member: 4964"] (MWM) is right - Dude is 17, not 7. True -there are differences in what happened to our family, your family and anyone else....BUT everyone here has children with behavior problems. What your son has done - isn't right. At seven, telling you he knew what he was doing - is most likely his way of covering himself for behaviors he simply feels he can not control. So how do you help him learn to control those behaviors? Sometimes it's with doctors, sometimes with medicines - sometimes with diet. We all have choices, and you may want to believe that he can behave and just chooses not to. Then continue to feel sorry for him and make excuses & punish a child that doesn't understand himself. OR understand that a lot of members here would recommend a psychiatric. evaluation, some type of counseling where a professional can explain what is going on in his head, with his behaviors and give you a game plan to help him learn how to make good choices. Locking him in his room like you said - isn't right or healthy either. In the long run it will create MORE problems for you and leave deep emotional scars for him. There IS however, learning how to communicate with a child who seems out of control and gaining parenting skills that go beyond "You do what I say or else." you may as well be speaking a foreign language - and threats accomplish nothing. Even if you have to - take him to an emergency room and see if they can get him evaluated, and possibly placed in a hospital for a couple days while you regroup and maybe the social worker that gets assigned to him will have some resources for you all. We're really here if you need us, and by the tone of your letter you need support. Don't think that anyone is judging you - your level of frustration and momentary solutions - are not going to work, and we just don't want to see your son or you hurt further. Come back and let us know how it went. ps. If you do read about parenting styles - read about Totalitarian - you'll understand what we're saying. Star [/QUOTE]
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