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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 434688" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Yes, Keista, I agree. It may have had something to do with the DVDs. We don't have a set-in-stone routine for these things. He usually watches 2 or 3 DVDs in succession on Sunday morning and then we do different things depending on the day. Having established this "rule" seems to have weaned him off the addiction somewhat because now he doesn't complain and shout when it is time to turn the DVD player off (there used to be mini-tantrums when I wanted to turn the television off). It's so difficult to tell what makes the difference, isn't it, if anything? Usually he watches his age-appropriate DVDs - programmes made especially for children his age. Yesterday however he watched something a bit different, a film I had got from the mediatheque (like a library with CDs and DVDs) - a film about talking dogs, for all the family but aimed at older kids and maybe adults. Was it this? One could even fantasise about there being some sort of beam radiated from the TV - I don't know!!</p><p>What I do know is that this is the place that is frankly hardest for me and maybe many of us... When his behaviour is really obnoxious and I KNOW that getting cross and stressed just makes it worse and does NOT model the kind of behaviour I want him to learn but... I am suddenly so thrown by the appearance of this know-it-all tough guy who has a kind of streetwise intelligence FAR beyond his years. Somehow I don't recognise it - but I do have to acknowledge that it's as much part of him as the endearing, affectionate, innocent pre-schooler who says all his funny, charming things and is so interested in the world around him... I guess I just don't LIKE this other side to his character or being. And it brings out the worst in me, I think.</p><p>Work in progress...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 434688, member: 11227"] Yes, Keista, I agree. It may have had something to do with the DVDs. We don't have a set-in-stone routine for these things. He usually watches 2 or 3 DVDs in succession on Sunday morning and then we do different things depending on the day. Having established this "rule" seems to have weaned him off the addiction somewhat because now he doesn't complain and shout when it is time to turn the DVD player off (there used to be mini-tantrums when I wanted to turn the television off). It's so difficult to tell what makes the difference, isn't it, if anything? Usually he watches his age-appropriate DVDs - programmes made especially for children his age. Yesterday however he watched something a bit different, a film I had got from the mediatheque (like a library with CDs and DVDs) - a film about talking dogs, for all the family but aimed at older kids and maybe adults. Was it this? One could even fantasise about there being some sort of beam radiated from the TV - I don't know!! What I do know is that this is the place that is frankly hardest for me and maybe many of us... When his behaviour is really obnoxious and I KNOW that getting cross and stressed just makes it worse and does NOT model the kind of behaviour I want him to learn but... I am suddenly so thrown by the appearance of this know-it-all tough guy who has a kind of streetwise intelligence FAR beyond his years. Somehow I don't recognise it - but I do have to acknowledge that it's as much part of him as the endearing, affectionate, innocent pre-schooler who says all his funny, charming things and is so interested in the world around him... I guess I just don't LIKE this other side to his character or being. And it brings out the worst in me, I think. Work in progress... [/QUOTE]
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