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<blockquote data-quote="BestICan" data-source="post: 191563" data-attributes="member: 3413"><p>There's a lot about this story that isn't working for me. Number one, why is a teacher threatening to punish a child for not eating a particular item in her lunch? </p><p></p><p>Number two, you have every right to roll your eyes (and complain to the principal!) about a teacher who calls you crying about your child's behavior. That's completely unacceptable, unprofessional, just ridiculous. My difficult child has had the misfortune of having two teachers in a row who were in their first trimester of pregnancy - one was a hormonal nightmare and the other was a joy. Maybe you hit the jackpot...</p><p></p><p>I think, before you worry about taking your difficult child out of mainstream schooling, you might explore whether there's another 1st grade teacher who you can try? I know, it's another transition, but there's something seriously awry here. </p><p></p><p>On the bright side, through her tears, the teacher asked you to help with strategies, which is a positive thing. As someone who's been there (a little bit) with my difficult child, I think strategies need to involve education and an attitude of teamwork.</p><p></p><p>As for education: I never realized how much epilepsy influences a child's behavior until I witnessed it first-hand. I mentioned in another thread about giving highlighted printouts to the teacher. Maybe look at epilepsy.com for something concise about seizures and behavior. She doesn't need to accept the behavior, but if she's going to be your child's teacher she needs to get a clue about the underlying disorder - that might be helpful in some way. </p><p></p><p>As for teamwork, you've probably already done this because you sound like you have a healthy attitude, but I always begin my yearly conversations with something like, "I realize my child can be challenging in a classroom setting, and I want to let you know that I support your efforts, and I'm here to answer any questions, let you know what tends to work, and reinforce things at home." (I just had this talk today <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" />) I think it's appropriate to say, "I trust that you're keeping your calm with my child, but if we're going to be an effective team, I need you to keep your calm with me, too. I'd appreciate it if you'd make sure you're able to speak professionally about the problem before you pick up the phone to call next time." </p><p></p><p>Bleah, what a yucky situation. My vote is to not give up on this schooling situation yet, and try to get your daughter additional time with the aide. Keep us posted!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BestICan, post: 191563, member: 3413"] There's a lot about this story that isn't working for me. Number one, why is a teacher threatening to punish a child for not eating a particular item in her lunch? Number two, you have every right to roll your eyes (and complain to the principal!) about a teacher who calls you crying about your child's behavior. That's completely unacceptable, unprofessional, just ridiculous. My difficult child has had the misfortune of having two teachers in a row who were in their first trimester of pregnancy - one was a hormonal nightmare and the other was a joy. Maybe you hit the jackpot... I think, before you worry about taking your difficult child out of mainstream schooling, you might explore whether there's another 1st grade teacher who you can try? I know, it's another transition, but there's something seriously awry here. On the bright side, through her tears, the teacher asked you to help with strategies, which is a positive thing. As someone who's been there (a little bit) with my difficult child, I think strategies need to involve education and an attitude of teamwork. As for education: I never realized how much epilepsy influences a child's behavior until I witnessed it first-hand. I mentioned in another thread about giving highlighted printouts to the teacher. Maybe look at epilepsy.com for something concise about seizures and behavior. She doesn't need to accept the behavior, but if she's going to be your child's teacher she needs to get a clue about the underlying disorder - that might be helpful in some way. As for teamwork, you've probably already done this because you sound like you have a healthy attitude, but I always begin my yearly conversations with something like, "I realize my child can be challenging in a classroom setting, and I want to let you know that I support your efforts, and I'm here to answer any questions, let you know what tends to work, and reinforce things at home." (I just had this talk today :-)) I think it's appropriate to say, "I trust that you're keeping your calm with my child, but if we're going to be an effective team, I need you to keep your calm with me, too. I'd appreciate it if you'd make sure you're able to speak professionally about the problem before you pick up the phone to call next time." Bleah, what a yucky situation. My vote is to not give up on this schooling situation yet, and try to get your daughter additional time with the aide. Keep us posted! [/QUOTE]
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