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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 415743" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>It is really hard to walk back into the classroom after an absense. Not only the school work that may not yet be back on track but the social part of school. What are the kids going to say? They will be watching me! I just can't have all that attention on me.</p><p> </p><p>My difficult child was in the 5th grade when his anxiety peaked. He couldn't make it through a day of school even with me by his side. (that was before we knew what was going on - we knew something was wrong during the summer leading up to school but once school hit he spiraled deep and strong) He was hospitalized for two weeks the end of October so pretty much missed the 1st quarter of school and didn't "rebond" with his classmates. Going back was extremely hard for him. For him, we were able to get an anxiety medication to just take the edge off. After awhile, it caused disinhibitation in him - meaning he had no fear of authority what so ever so did become disrespectful toward the teachers but being it was helping his academics and we had the most supportive teachers around (they knew this was not his true self and had confidence that he would turn around), I kept him on it through the school year.</p><p> </p><p>Getting him to do homework was so hard that year. His math teacher offered to cut his assignments down to make them more manageable but I refused the offer. I felt for HIM he had to do the entire work - I don't think the work was that hard for him, his anxiety was just working overtime telling him that he had to be perfect or not do it at all. For HIM, I felt he needed to tackle the entire work load as part of HIS healing process. I was following my mommy instincts and looking back, it paid off. That is a very different approach than most kids. Many kids benefit from a reduced work load so if you can get the math teacher to cut his assignments down, or do only partial work in the other classes, it may help.</p><p> </p><p>How supportive are the teachers and school staff? Are they working "out of the box" to meet his needs?</p><p> </p><p>Have a conversation with him about how he feels walking back into the classroom after an absense. Let him know that he is stronger than his anxiety - that he can overcome it - that it will take time but hiding at home will make it even harder. See if there are any social fears to go along with the academic fears.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 415743, member: 5096"] It is really hard to walk back into the classroom after an absense. Not only the school work that may not yet be back on track but the social part of school. What are the kids going to say? They will be watching me! I just can't have all that attention on me. My difficult child was in the 5th grade when his anxiety peaked. He couldn't make it through a day of school even with me by his side. (that was before we knew what was going on - we knew something was wrong during the summer leading up to school but once school hit he spiraled deep and strong) He was hospitalized for two weeks the end of October so pretty much missed the 1st quarter of school and didn't "rebond" with his classmates. Going back was extremely hard for him. For him, we were able to get an anxiety medication to just take the edge off. After awhile, it caused disinhibitation in him - meaning he had no fear of authority what so ever so did become disrespectful toward the teachers but being it was helping his academics and we had the most supportive teachers around (they knew this was not his true self and had confidence that he would turn around), I kept him on it through the school year. Getting him to do homework was so hard that year. His math teacher offered to cut his assignments down to make them more manageable but I refused the offer. I felt for HIM he had to do the entire work - I don't think the work was that hard for him, his anxiety was just working overtime telling him that he had to be perfect or not do it at all. For HIM, I felt he needed to tackle the entire work load as part of HIS healing process. I was following my mommy instincts and looking back, it paid off. That is a very different approach than most kids. Many kids benefit from a reduced work load so if you can get the math teacher to cut his assignments down, or do only partial work in the other classes, it may help. How supportive are the teachers and school staff? Are they working "out of the box" to meet his needs? Have a conversation with him about how he feels walking back into the classroom after an absense. Let him know that he is stronger than his anxiety - that he can overcome it - that it will take time but hiding at home will make it even harder. See if there are any social fears to go along with the academic fears. [/QUOTE]
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