Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
School phobia??
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="rlsnights" data-source="post: 415751" data-attributes="member: 7948"><p>Given the whole situation with the antagonism of the school esp. principal, while you have right on your side, they have might. And time.</p><p></p><p>Having been there done that I think you can push them all you want but they are not going to be warm and fuzzy even if you win in mediation or due process. And mediation or due process, should mediation fail, is going to take time. By the end of this you will be nearly to the end of the school year. And difficult child will have lost at least half of the year.</p><p></p><p>Andy is right about how hard it is to go back after absences. To go back when the teachers and principal have labeled you a discipline problem is a lot worse for a kid who really doesn't get the social stuff and so doesn't necessarily really understand what makes everyone mad at him.</p><p></p><p>The term you are looking for is "school refusal". I would know this because I am in the middle of the 4th month of school refusal from difficult child 2.</p><p></p><p>I see a couple choices here.</p><p></p><p>1. Put difficult child on home/hospital for the rest of the school year or until you can come to an agreement with the SD thanks to mediation or due process. This may not be so easy depending on the way that the SD runs it's home/hospital services. If they depend on a teacher from the school to come out every day for an hour after school it may be hard to find a teacher to do the job. No matter who gets the job the SD will require that an adult be present in the home at the same time. If you have someone who can do this for you then it may be the most practical solution. If not, then you have a problem unless the teacher is willing to come in the evening.</p><p></p><p>The biggest argument against this approach is that H/H has the potential to worsen difficult child's school refusal - why go to school where it's scary when he can stay home with Mommy where it's safe and have a teacher come to him?</p><p></p><p>2. It may be time to go elsewhere and let difficult child start fresh in a school where there is a commitment to all children - not just the ones that are easy to teach. I know there are a lot of reasons why you have tried to stay the course. But I think there are also some good reasons to go in a different direction too. Discuss this with your advocate and, if you decide to leave, be careful about how you proceed. Do your best to get as much as you can out of the SD and what you can get from them may depend on how you proceed. If transportation is going to be important, see if you can get that from them first.</p><p></p><p>If there is a private or non-public school anywhere close that would offer difficult child a really good and appropriate education, I'd be talking to them and thinking seriously about what you are going to ask for in mediation. Because, if you end up on top in mediation, that is what they are going to say to you. What do you want? Hopefully your advocate has already discussed this with you. But it can be the most important thing you think about before mediation or even due process. What is your ideal outcome? What parts of that are necessary and what parts are negotiable?</p><p></p><p>I think using medications to treat situational anxiety that is reality-based in a difficult child with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) doesn't necessarily make a lot of sense. But it's something to discuss with the psychiatrist and if difficult child doesn't yet have a therapist and you can manage that, then I think it is definitely time for one.</p><p></p><p>Best wishes,</p><p></p><p>P</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rlsnights, post: 415751, member: 7948"] Given the whole situation with the antagonism of the school esp. principal, while you have right on your side, they have might. And time. Having been there done that I think you can push them all you want but they are not going to be warm and fuzzy even if you win in mediation or due process. And mediation or due process, should mediation fail, is going to take time. By the end of this you will be nearly to the end of the school year. And difficult child will have lost at least half of the year. Andy is right about how hard it is to go back after absences. To go back when the teachers and principal have labeled you a discipline problem is a lot worse for a kid who really doesn't get the social stuff and so doesn't necessarily really understand what makes everyone mad at him. The term you are looking for is "school refusal". I would know this because I am in the middle of the 4th month of school refusal from difficult child 2. I see a couple choices here. 1. Put difficult child on home/hospital for the rest of the school year or until you can come to an agreement with the SD thanks to mediation or due process. This may not be so easy depending on the way that the SD runs it's home/hospital services. If they depend on a teacher from the school to come out every day for an hour after school it may be hard to find a teacher to do the job. No matter who gets the job the SD will require that an adult be present in the home at the same time. If you have someone who can do this for you then it may be the most practical solution. If not, then you have a problem unless the teacher is willing to come in the evening. The biggest argument against this approach is that H/H has the potential to worsen difficult child's school refusal - why go to school where it's scary when he can stay home with Mommy where it's safe and have a teacher come to him? 2. It may be time to go elsewhere and let difficult child start fresh in a school where there is a commitment to all children - not just the ones that are easy to teach. I know there are a lot of reasons why you have tried to stay the course. But I think there are also some good reasons to go in a different direction too. Discuss this with your advocate and, if you decide to leave, be careful about how you proceed. Do your best to get as much as you can out of the SD and what you can get from them may depend on how you proceed. If transportation is going to be important, see if you can get that from them first. If there is a private or non-public school anywhere close that would offer difficult child a really good and appropriate education, I'd be talking to them and thinking seriously about what you are going to ask for in mediation. Because, if you end up on top in mediation, that is what they are going to say to you. What do you want? Hopefully your advocate has already discussed this with you. But it can be the most important thing you think about before mediation or even due process. What is your ideal outcome? What parts of that are necessary and what parts are negotiable? I think using medications to treat situational anxiety that is reality-based in a difficult child with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) doesn't necessarily make a lot of sense. But it's something to discuss with the psychiatrist and if difficult child doesn't yet have a therapist and you can manage that, then I think it is definitely time for one. Best wishes, P [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
School phobia??
Top