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<blockquote data-quote="SearchingForRainbows" data-source="post: 515650" data-attributes="member: 3388"><p>Buddy, </p><p></p><p>I'm fighting a migraine, so this answer may or may not make lots of sense. My very first reaction to all of this is that you need to think long and hard about whether the outcome will be worth the cost not only in terms of money spent but the added emotional stress on you and Q. In a perfect world, I would say go after the district with all you have. This is far from a perfect world...</p><p></p><p>I know some people might think I've gone off the edge for saying this. I was one of those people about five years ago. husband and I fought the school district with all we had. While we didn't get what we had hoped, we were thrown additional slices but not enough of the pie. Given the time, expense, emotional cost not only to difficult child 2 but also to husband and I, looking back, we probably could have gotten the same number of slices without having to go to hearing. Yes, don't get me wrong, most hearings come out in favor of the child. We were fighting for ADL's, social skills training, vocational training, and we were one of the first families in our area to do so. Most cases at the time focused solely on appropriate educational settings teaching math, history, etc... </p><p></p><p>I would like to think that our case helped pave the way for some of the changes that are slowly being implemented in our area now. If this is the case, while I am extremely glad all of the HE77 we went through might be serving a much larger purpose, it is impossible for me to put into words what the actual experience preparing for and attending the hearing was like. </p><p></p><p>Our case dragged on much longer then expected, although it was partly due to the fact husband had a heart attack the day before difficult child 2 was scheduled for another neuropsychologist evaluation, and only several months away from the first (?)/second (?) hearing date. (Some of the details are fuzzy right now, probably blocked lots of stuff out of my mind in order to move forward - Not sure this makes sense!) I thought I was holding together unbelievably well but my body told me otherwise. I've recently learned that some of the physical issues I now suffer from were most likely triggered by extreme, prolonged stress. I'm sure difficult child 2 was affected negatively by all of events/changes surrounding his life even though he never expressed this in words. Instead, we dealt with extreme "melt-downs," behaviors that challenged us daily even though we thought we could handle anything thrown our way after what we went through with difficult child 1.</p><p></p><p>If you place Q in what you want to be a temporary setting until you find a more appropriate one, it can be more difficult for you to get him out of that setting later if the school staff shows he is making progress (even if they are outright lying.) on the other hand, it can work in your favor if you can prove he isn't making progress in the temporary setting. Be prepared though - You'll need expert witnesses and they are very, very expensive!! Not sure I'm making sense here!!</p><p></p><p>Got to go. easy child/difficult child 2 starts school several hours later then usual this morning, got to get her breakfast and don't want her to see this.</p><p></p><p>As always, thinking of you and Q... SFR</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SearchingForRainbows, post: 515650, member: 3388"] Buddy, I'm fighting a migraine, so this answer may or may not make lots of sense. My very first reaction to all of this is that you need to think long and hard about whether the outcome will be worth the cost not only in terms of money spent but the added emotional stress on you and Q. In a perfect world, I would say go after the district with all you have. This is far from a perfect world... I know some people might think I've gone off the edge for saying this. I was one of those people about five years ago. husband and I fought the school district with all we had. While we didn't get what we had hoped, we were thrown additional slices but not enough of the pie. Given the time, expense, emotional cost not only to difficult child 2 but also to husband and I, looking back, we probably could have gotten the same number of slices without having to go to hearing. Yes, don't get me wrong, most hearings come out in favor of the child. We were fighting for ADL's, social skills training, vocational training, and we were one of the first families in our area to do so. Most cases at the time focused solely on appropriate educational settings teaching math, history, etc... I would like to think that our case helped pave the way for some of the changes that are slowly being implemented in our area now. If this is the case, while I am extremely glad all of the HE77 we went through might be serving a much larger purpose, it is impossible for me to put into words what the actual experience preparing for and attending the hearing was like. Our case dragged on much longer then expected, although it was partly due to the fact husband had a heart attack the day before difficult child 2 was scheduled for another neuropsychologist evaluation, and only several months away from the first (?)/second (?) hearing date. (Some of the details are fuzzy right now, probably blocked lots of stuff out of my mind in order to move forward - Not sure this makes sense!) I thought I was holding together unbelievably well but my body told me otherwise. I've recently learned that some of the physical issues I now suffer from were most likely triggered by extreme, prolonged stress. I'm sure difficult child 2 was affected negatively by all of events/changes surrounding his life even though he never expressed this in words. Instead, we dealt with extreme "melt-downs," behaviors that challenged us daily even though we thought we could handle anything thrown our way after what we went through with difficult child 1. If you place Q in what you want to be a temporary setting until you find a more appropriate one, it can be more difficult for you to get him out of that setting later if the school staff shows he is making progress (even if they are outright lying.) on the other hand, it can work in your favor if you can prove he isn't making progress in the temporary setting. Be prepared though - You'll need expert witnesses and they are very, very expensive!! Not sure I'm making sense here!! Got to go. easy child/difficult child 2 starts school several hours later then usual this morning, got to get her breakfast and don't want her to see this. As always, thinking of you and Q... SFR [/QUOTE]
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