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<blockquote data-quote="SearchingForRainbows" data-source="post: 515709" data-attributes="member: 3388"><p>Buddy,</p><p></p><p>Sadly the staff at Q's school reminds me way too much of the staff we had to deal with - Totally focused on one thing - Money. I've come to the conclusion that in our case, while I thought the sped directors (we had so many it was like they were playing musical chairs - here one minute, gone the next), adjustment counselor, guidance counselor, some teachers, etc., were stupid at first, I was wrong. They knew exactly what difficult child 2's issues were, they just didn't care. What mattered most was how much giving him a chance to live life successfully as an adult was going to cost them. One of the psychiatrists the sped director insisted do a home assessment, went as far as to say, why bother?, in the long run, the government will take over, providing SSI, housing, etc... I wanted to reach across the table and just choke her!! I hate all of those people you're dealing with right now too!! </p><p></p><p>I've often wondered, how can they sleep at night, knowing that a child's future is at risk? What would they do if it was their own children who had the same issues as ours? The worst, most despicable, can't find a strong enough word, person I know is the educational consultant who worked for the school. I really don't think I should go into details here, all I feel comfortable saying is that she worked as an advocate for parents at a non profit organization. It's a small world. When difficult child 2 was about 4, she advised us how to get appropriate school services in the town where we were living at the time. We lost touch with her. Years later, after we moved, and just beginning our fight with the school, we contacted the same non-profit organization again. She was still working there and we were put in touch with her. She met with us, told us how bad the services were in difficult child 2's school, offered suggestions on how she could help, going as far as to give us lists of programs outside our SD that might be appropriate for difficult child 2. We later found out she did contract work for the schools. She helped the school make it's point that difficult child 2 didn't need the type of programming we were going after. in my humble opinion, she is the worst kind of monster there is...</p><p></p><p>So sorry you're dealing with all of this... You're doing an excellent job, thoroughly thinking things through, asking the right questions, being the best possible advocate you can be for Q. Some schools play hardball right up to the end. There is always the chance that they'll weigh the total cost of going to hearing against providing appropriate services for Q and decide providing appropriate services is the way to go. Of course appropriate services doesn't mean the best possible services, but appropriate services, while not your first choice, might just be enough to give Q the chance he needs to live a happy, productive life. </p><p></p><p>I think I'm rambling a bit too much... I could talk endlessly about this subject. Hang in there... Hugs... SFR</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SearchingForRainbows, post: 515709, member: 3388"] Buddy, Sadly the staff at Q's school reminds me way too much of the staff we had to deal with - Totally focused on one thing - Money. I've come to the conclusion that in our case, while I thought the sped directors (we had so many it was like they were playing musical chairs - here one minute, gone the next), adjustment counselor, guidance counselor, some teachers, etc., were stupid at first, I was wrong. They knew exactly what difficult child 2's issues were, they just didn't care. What mattered most was how much giving him a chance to live life successfully as an adult was going to cost them. One of the psychiatrists the sped director insisted do a home assessment, went as far as to say, why bother?, in the long run, the government will take over, providing SSI, housing, etc... I wanted to reach across the table and just choke her!! I hate all of those people you're dealing with right now too!! I've often wondered, how can they sleep at night, knowing that a child's future is at risk? What would they do if it was their own children who had the same issues as ours? The worst, most despicable, can't find a strong enough word, person I know is the educational consultant who worked for the school. I really don't think I should go into details here, all I feel comfortable saying is that she worked as an advocate for parents at a non profit organization. It's a small world. When difficult child 2 was about 4, she advised us how to get appropriate school services in the town where we were living at the time. We lost touch with her. Years later, after we moved, and just beginning our fight with the school, we contacted the same non-profit organization again. She was still working there and we were put in touch with her. She met with us, told us how bad the services were in difficult child 2's school, offered suggestions on how she could help, going as far as to give us lists of programs outside our SD that might be appropriate for difficult child 2. We later found out she did contract work for the schools. She helped the school make it's point that difficult child 2 didn't need the type of programming we were going after. in my humble opinion, she is the worst kind of monster there is... So sorry you're dealing with all of this... You're doing an excellent job, thoroughly thinking things through, asking the right questions, being the best possible advocate you can be for Q. Some schools play hardball right up to the end. There is always the chance that they'll weigh the total cost of going to hearing against providing appropriate services for Q and decide providing appropriate services is the way to go. Of course appropriate services doesn't mean the best possible services, but appropriate services, while not your first choice, might just be enough to give Q the chance he needs to live a happy, productive life. I think I'm rambling a bit too much... I could talk endlessly about this subject. Hang in there... Hugs... SFR [/QUOTE]
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