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second-guessing our decision to bring our son home from Residential Treatment Center (RTC)
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<blockquote data-quote="recovering doormat" data-source="post: 245478" data-attributes="member: 5941"><p>I am so sorry to read your stories of how things didn't work out and how stressful it was on you. I am actually a bit more afraid of the additional stress on my ex and me of trying to duplicate the "bubble" rather than my son relapsing and being worse than he was before, although I would never say that won't happen as well.</p><p> </p><p>I don't know how my son compares to your children on the conduct disorder "meter". His emotional disorder diagnosis is anxiety and mild depression, which led to his self-medicating with pot. The therapy team did not think that medication was indicated at the time of his discharge plan meeting. It's possible that we might want to revisit that if the therapist whom he will be dealing with at home thinks medications might take the edge off the anxiety. It just seemed to me that our son would have periods of relative stability, like he did at the beginning of the school year, where he blew all us adults away by actually doing well for the first 8 weeks in a huge, urban high school. Then, something happened, I don't know what, and he spiraled downhill. I don't know if he self-sabotages or worse, if his dad and I are so "fixed" in our responses, that we subconsciously pull him back just when he is about to make a breakthrough. Do you know what I'm talking about? Like we are afraid he will change for the better...sounds sick but that's what the behaviorist says we might think about. </p><p> </p><p>Our kid knows that if he starts to backslide we won't tolerate the behavior that went before, an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) will be waiting for him. </p><p> </p><p>I hope we haven't set him up for failure. Our behaviorist has been pushing so hard for us to give him a quality of life that will make him want to behave well enough to stay in our homes. So far we have been vigilant about keepign the stress level down (no switching between two homes, limit on visitors, no school today so he and his older sister are working in dad's office today, sticking to a predictable routine). </p><p> </p><p>I take your experiences and advice to heart. I'm praying that we are able to help him, not hurt him more.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recovering doormat, post: 245478, member: 5941"] I am so sorry to read your stories of how things didn't work out and how stressful it was on you. I am actually a bit more afraid of the additional stress on my ex and me of trying to duplicate the "bubble" rather than my son relapsing and being worse than he was before, although I would never say that won't happen as well. I don't know how my son compares to your children on the conduct disorder "meter". His emotional disorder diagnosis is anxiety and mild depression, which led to his self-medicating with pot. The therapy team did not think that medication was indicated at the time of his discharge plan meeting. It's possible that we might want to revisit that if the therapist whom he will be dealing with at home thinks medications might take the edge off the anxiety. It just seemed to me that our son would have periods of relative stability, like he did at the beginning of the school year, where he blew all us adults away by actually doing well for the first 8 weeks in a huge, urban high school. Then, something happened, I don't know what, and he spiraled downhill. I don't know if he self-sabotages or worse, if his dad and I are so "fixed" in our responses, that we subconsciously pull him back just when he is about to make a breakthrough. Do you know what I'm talking about? Like we are afraid he will change for the better...sounds sick but that's what the behaviorist says we might think about. Our kid knows that if he starts to backslide we won't tolerate the behavior that went before, an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) will be waiting for him. I hope we haven't set him up for failure. Our behaviorist has been pushing so hard for us to give him a quality of life that will make him want to behave well enough to stay in our homes. So far we have been vigilant about keepign the stress level down (no switching between two homes, limit on visitors, no school today so he and his older sister are working in dad's office today, sticking to a predictable routine). I take your experiences and advice to heart. I'm praying that we are able to help him, not hurt him more. [/QUOTE]
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