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second-guessing our decision to bring our son home from Residential Treatment Center (RTC)
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<blockquote data-quote="recovering doormat" data-source="post: 245788" data-attributes="member: 5941"><p>Susiestar: </p><p> </p><p>If I had a relative that could take our son to give him a break from the tension at home (volatile sisters, high-conflict divorce, father with-issues in denial) and get him away from the kids who helped bring him down, I'd choose that as my first option. Other adults who know our son think the world of him, that he's basically a good kid who can work hard and is smart. He has an open invitation to work for a local dockmaster and build his own boat with an expert's help. That's the reason behind having him come home instead of going directly to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC).</p><p> </p><p>However, he's been home only three and a half days, and already the doubt is gnawing at me. His dad and I agreed that one of us has to be with him 24/7 for the time being so he doesn't backslide, and it's a lot harder to do, particularly when you have two other children and dad is a self-employed tax accountant during tax season! Yesterday our son finished working for a friend by 11 a.m and wanted to come home, so I stayed with him at his dad's house, all day until 6 p.m. The whole time, while son is showering, watching tv, chatting online with friends, I'm watching TV adn thinking about the laundry, bill paying, and tax preparation I should be doing at home. And wondering why I let my ex talk me into this.</p><p> </p><p>Part of the problem is that we maintain a lot of contact with our son during the six weeks he was at the same type of place Susiestar's son was at. We missed him terribly, took his phone calls (3x a week) and phoned him on the days he couldn't call, at his insistence. Bad idea, in retrospect. all we did was fan the flames of homesickness, making it easier to justify bringing him home.</p><p> </p><p>Compounding the frustration is that our public schools are on vacation this week, meaning there is nothing for the kids to do, and the administrative staff that I wold normally be calling to set up tutoring or an ed placement for our son are also on vacation until next week.</p><p> </p><p>It's only Tuesday and I'm shot already!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recovering doormat, post: 245788, member: 5941"] Susiestar: If I had a relative that could take our son to give him a break from the tension at home (volatile sisters, high-conflict divorce, father with-issues in denial) and get him away from the kids who helped bring him down, I'd choose that as my first option. Other adults who know our son think the world of him, that he's basically a good kid who can work hard and is smart. He has an open invitation to work for a local dockmaster and build his own boat with an expert's help. That's the reason behind having him come home instead of going directly to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). However, he's been home only three and a half days, and already the doubt is gnawing at me. His dad and I agreed that one of us has to be with him 24/7 for the time being so he doesn't backslide, and it's a lot harder to do, particularly when you have two other children and dad is a self-employed tax accountant during tax season! Yesterday our son finished working for a friend by 11 a.m and wanted to come home, so I stayed with him at his dad's house, all day until 6 p.m. The whole time, while son is showering, watching tv, chatting online with friends, I'm watching TV adn thinking about the laundry, bill paying, and tax preparation I should be doing at home. And wondering why I let my ex talk me into this. Part of the problem is that we maintain a lot of contact with our son during the six weeks he was at the same type of place Susiestar's son was at. We missed him terribly, took his phone calls (3x a week) and phoned him on the days he couldn't call, at his insistence. Bad idea, in retrospect. all we did was fan the flames of homesickness, making it easier to justify bringing him home. Compounding the frustration is that our public schools are on vacation this week, meaning there is nothing for the kids to do, and the administrative staff that I wold normally be calling to set up tutoring or an ed placement for our son are also on vacation until next week. It's only Tuesday and I'm shot already! [/QUOTE]
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