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Seeking out adults as conversation/play partners?
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<blockquote data-quote="keepongoing" data-source="post: 376234"><p>My boy who is ten does that and always has. Here is why: adults do make allowances in conversations with kids that other kids don't make. They go along with the kids topic of interest, they keep talking with a kid even after they get bored with the conversation, they repair where there are breaks. </p><p>In my experience kids who talk more to adults do that because it is easier and less stressfull than conversations with their peers. My son is an Aspie and even though he is very socially interested, has a great vocabulary and speaks well, peers are 'turned off' by him dominating conversations with his topics and his lack of finding the right tone or saying the right thing. I did not notice this until he was about 6-7, initially it was very subtle but peers pick up on it. Now that my son is ten it is very obvious.The other issue is of course that my son does not fully understand social norms- one of them being that you sould seek out your age-group. He will talk to anyone no matter age or dress or context. </p><p>I am not sure if your five year old has something mild on the spectrum or if you are suspecting it. It might even be too mild to be worth a diagnosis but I think that kids breaking social norms or having trouble being accepted by peers is a bit of a red flag. Of course there are also those kids who are wise souls and might be a bit different but will grow up into these perfectly composed successful adults.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keepongoing, post: 376234"] My boy who is ten does that and always has. Here is why: adults do make allowances in conversations with kids that other kids don't make. They go along with the kids topic of interest, they keep talking with a kid even after they get bored with the conversation, they repair where there are breaks. In my experience kids who talk more to adults do that because it is easier and less stressfull than conversations with their peers. My son is an Aspie and even though he is very socially interested, has a great vocabulary and speaks well, peers are 'turned off' by him dominating conversations with his topics and his lack of finding the right tone or saying the right thing. I did not notice this until he was about 6-7, initially it was very subtle but peers pick up on it. Now that my son is ten it is very obvious.The other issue is of course that my son does not fully understand social norms- one of them being that you sould seek out your age-group. He will talk to anyone no matter age or dress or context. I am not sure if your five year old has something mild on the spectrum or if you are suspecting it. It might even be too mild to be worth a diagnosis but I think that kids breaking social norms or having trouble being accepted by peers is a bit of a red flag. Of course there are also those kids who are wise souls and might be a bit different but will grow up into these perfectly composed successful adults. [/QUOTE]
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