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Self preservation or just plain Selfish!?!
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 605308" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>LMS, I am just shy of your Mom's age and although I have used A LOT of my money on my daughter, my sister and my granddaughter, now that I am this age, I am becoming more selfish. I didn't think that way until recently, I think there is something about getting to a certain age where you start recognizing that you need to think about having enough money to get you through.</p><p></p><p>Having said all of that, I think in your case, it may be less about what your mother leaves any of you, then it is about how she is. She sounds like someone who has always been self focused, perhaps even selfish, and that isn't changing with what she does now with her money. There may not really be any right or wrong here, just what people decide to do. Your mother has been willing to trade off the family connection for a younger face and being able to buy herself "stuff." In the end, we all have to live with our choices............while she spends all her money, she may do it without much family connection.</p><p></p><p>I'm trying to find that balance for myself too. For me, I've given the kids A LOT and now (once granddaughter is on her way) it's going to be all about ME.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 605308, member: 13542"] LMS, I am just shy of your Mom's age and although I have used A LOT of my money on my daughter, my sister and my granddaughter, now that I am this age, I am becoming more selfish. I didn't think that way until recently, I think there is something about getting to a certain age where you start recognizing that you need to think about having enough money to get you through. Having said all of that, I think in your case, it may be less about what your mother leaves any of you, then it is about how she is. She sounds like someone who has always been self focused, perhaps even selfish, and that isn't changing with what she does now with her money. There may not really be any right or wrong here, just what people decide to do. Your mother has been willing to trade off the family connection for a younger face and being able to buy herself "stuff." In the end, we all have to live with our choices............while she spends all her money, she may do it without much family connection. I'm trying to find that balance for myself too. For me, I've given the kids A LOT and now (once granddaughter is on her way) it's going to be all about ME. [/QUOTE]
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