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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 316634" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>Yes, I can relate because my husband had similar issue b.m. (before medications). I know this wasn't healthy, but I learned to just let go of a lot of things to keep my sanity. Things are improved around here, but far from perfect. </p><p> </p><p>The kids should certainly be helping out with the chores and thus learning life skills they will need later on. Laundry is an easy task for them to learn. And they can all chip in so one doesn't feel overwhelmed with it. Assign sorting to one child, loading and transfering to the dryer to another child, and folding and distributing to another (maybe the oldest since this requires a bit more patience). Each kid puts their own clothes away that have either been delivered to their room or placed in a stack somewhere easy to collect.</p><p> </p><p>If you have a dishwasher -- USE IT. And this is another very easy, kid-friendly task that doesn't take much time at all. All three of mine are experts at unloading and putting dishes away. I've just recently started working on teaching the oldest how to load it properly.</p><p> </p><p>Bathrooms are another area where kids can help. Mirrors are easy for little ones to clean. Save the dirtiest job for the oldest who should be able to manage some rubber gloves, a bit of bleach and a scrub brush. The younger ones can scrub out a tub and sweep/vacuum a floor. If they all work together they can get it done in a half hour or less.</p><p> </p><p>I think the trick for kids is breaking jobs up into small parts so they don't get overwhelmed and shut down. When mine balked at emptying the WHOLE dishwasher, I broke it down into sections and told them to ONLY empty the top rack, or bottom rack or silverware basket. That made it much more manageable in their mind.</p><p></p><p>If you can afford help to come in once a month, I'd try that, too.</p><p> </p><p>You may not be able to change your spouse, but you can train your kids and hopefully over time be able to get back on top of the situation. Until you get to that point, you may have to just turn a blind eye to some of the chaos and focus on just the essentials.</p><p> </p><p>Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 316634, member: 3444"] Yes, I can relate because my husband had similar issue b.m. (before medications). I know this wasn't healthy, but I learned to just let go of a lot of things to keep my sanity. Things are improved around here, but far from perfect. The kids should certainly be helping out with the chores and thus learning life skills they will need later on. Laundry is an easy task for them to learn. And they can all chip in so one doesn't feel overwhelmed with it. Assign sorting to one child, loading and transfering to the dryer to another child, and folding and distributing to another (maybe the oldest since this requires a bit more patience). Each kid puts their own clothes away that have either been delivered to their room or placed in a stack somewhere easy to collect. If you have a dishwasher -- USE IT. And this is another very easy, kid-friendly task that doesn't take much time at all. All three of mine are experts at unloading and putting dishes away. I've just recently started working on teaching the oldest how to load it properly. Bathrooms are another area where kids can help. Mirrors are easy for little ones to clean. Save the dirtiest job for the oldest who should be able to manage some rubber gloves, a bit of bleach and a scrub brush. The younger ones can scrub out a tub and sweep/vacuum a floor. If they all work together they can get it done in a half hour or less. I think the trick for kids is breaking jobs up into small parts so they don't get overwhelmed and shut down. When mine balked at emptying the WHOLE dishwasher, I broke it down into sections and told them to ONLY empty the top rack, or bottom rack or silverware basket. That made it much more manageable in their mind. If you can afford help to come in once a month, I'd try that, too. You may not be able to change your spouse, but you can train your kids and hopefully over time be able to get back on top of the situation. Until you get to that point, you may have to just turn a blind eye to some of the chaos and focus on just the essentials. Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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