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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 517213" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Welcome RayL Glad you found us but sorry you needed to seek us out. Unfortunately I have been in those same shoes around ten years ago. Our teen had been a "gifted" student, award winning athelete, socially a magnet to others and his lifetime only raised his voice in anger one time at home. We started with outpatient counseling and he ended up attending three s.a. residential programs. The programs did not work...because...he did not work the programs.</p><p></p><p>To address your specific question, there just isn't anyway to "know" what the outcome may be. I assume that the residential program is one you have checked out thoroughly. The first program I chose "had" had a great reputation</p><p>and I was confident taking him there. Turns out that in the year before his admission the facility leadership had changed and almost all of the teens were courtordered there. It was not what I expected but, again, my teen was not open to help because "it's no big deal". </p><p></p><p>So you have done everything at home to alter his choices. He admits to smoking pot and probably drinking. If he actively participates in a s.a. program you can bet the family farm you're going to be shocked to find out that he is into other drugs.......we all were. If you let him stay home and continue to make his own choices he will hang out with his using friends (likely kids you don't know exist). The chances are very high that he will end up arrested. Yep, we ended up facing that too.</p><p></p><p>Even with our unsuccessful programs I believe we gave our son a chance to learn about himself. He had every chance we could provide to change paths. He did learn more about hard drugs than he knew and evidently will never try some of those. It was valuable that he had no contact with his "friends" during his inpatient time. on the other hand, he was not mature enough to "get the message" and then make changes in his lifestyle. I would choose to admit him again if those years had to be a do-over. Sending supportive thoughts you way. We know how hard this is, hugs DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 517213, member: 35"] Welcome RayL Glad you found us but sorry you needed to seek us out. Unfortunately I have been in those same shoes around ten years ago. Our teen had been a "gifted" student, award winning athelete, socially a magnet to others and his lifetime only raised his voice in anger one time at home. We started with outpatient counseling and he ended up attending three s.a. residential programs. The programs did not work...because...he did not work the programs. To address your specific question, there just isn't anyway to "know" what the outcome may be. I assume that the residential program is one you have checked out thoroughly. The first program I chose "had" had a great reputation and I was confident taking him there. Turns out that in the year before his admission the facility leadership had changed and almost all of the teens were courtordered there. It was not what I expected but, again, my teen was not open to help because "it's no big deal". So you have done everything at home to alter his choices. He admits to smoking pot and probably drinking. If he actively participates in a s.a. program you can bet the family farm you're going to be shocked to find out that he is into other drugs.......we all were. If you let him stay home and continue to make his own choices he will hang out with his using friends (likely kids you don't know exist). The chances are very high that he will end up arrested. Yep, we ended up facing that too. Even with our unsuccessful programs I believe we gave our son a chance to learn about himself. He had every chance we could provide to change paths. He did learn more about hard drugs than he knew and evidently will never try some of those. It was valuable that he had no contact with his "friends" during his inpatient time. on the other hand, he was not mature enough to "get the message" and then make changes in his lifestyle. I would choose to admit him again if those years had to be a do-over. Sending supportive thoughts you way. We know how hard this is, hugs DDD [/QUOTE]
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