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<blockquote data-quote="Zardo" data-source="post: 517526" data-attributes="member: 12490"><p>Welcome RayL - one year ago, I sent my 15 year old to a Wilderness Substance abuse program for 90 days. My scenario was similar, except that my sons issues also included a lot of anger and defiance at home, but that was mostly centerred around our efforts to try to intervene in his pot usage. My son struggled in 8th grade. Same thing, smart kid, didn't do any work, began failing classes and getting in trouble for entertaining the other students with his "jackass" style antics. There was no pot use in 8th grade. By the time 9th grade started, he had quickly found pot and the issues became much worse. He slipped into a deep depression, wouldn't talk to anyone, stopped doing any school work and was completely unreachable. He eventually got caught with pot at school and was expelled which started our journey of programs and support to try to help him through this. One of the most important things I can tell you is don't protect him. As scary as it was, his getting expelled was the most important "game changing" moment in our journey. He was not reachable before that, and has slowly been able to be reached form that day on. It has not always been easy as he has had some starts and stops, but each time, he goes for more support. He did the 90 day residential program, attended outpatient aftercare afterwards, fell again, then went to a mor eintensive IOP. He is doing well right now back at his traditional boarding school. He is sober, getting good grades, and respectful at home for the vast majority of times. It has taken all of the past 2 years to get him through and I suspect we are not fully done, but he is MUCH better. I would highly reccomend you try to get him to attend an IOP program after school. He will fight you on this, but if you can get him to the in-take interview, you may be pleasantly surprised. The guy at the center mine went to have been able to convince a couple other kids I know to also attend his program. For my son, the IOP program was the most meaningful to him. He met many kids there that had lost a lot and sufferred greatly do to drug use. Meeting those kids seemed to greatly impact him and, believe it or not, those kids were good influences....they had all been through so much, they encouraged him to see his behavior differently. HE changed after that program. If he is unwilling to go, you can try to "make" him. Gather up everything that is meaningful to him, his cell, his xbox, etc - he is no longer allowed access to these things, unless he goes to IOP. If all of that doesn't work, there are Wilderness treatment programs that will taking unwilling kids. They are "escorted" in the middle of the night. It's a drastic measure for sure, but if you think he is really at-risk right now, it could be an immediate intervention to just try to get him to the point where you can work with him at home. The goal could just be that, intervention and trying to build an awareness on his side that there is a problem and get him more comfortable in a counseling setting. Then, when he comes home, you move him to an IOP. you can find these through "Infoline" services in most communities.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Zardo, post: 517526, member: 12490"] Welcome RayL - one year ago, I sent my 15 year old to a Wilderness Substance abuse program for 90 days. My scenario was similar, except that my sons issues also included a lot of anger and defiance at home, but that was mostly centerred around our efforts to try to intervene in his pot usage. My son struggled in 8th grade. Same thing, smart kid, didn't do any work, began failing classes and getting in trouble for entertaining the other students with his "jackass" style antics. There was no pot use in 8th grade. By the time 9th grade started, he had quickly found pot and the issues became much worse. He slipped into a deep depression, wouldn't talk to anyone, stopped doing any school work and was completely unreachable. He eventually got caught with pot at school and was expelled which started our journey of programs and support to try to help him through this. One of the most important things I can tell you is don't protect him. As scary as it was, his getting expelled was the most important "game changing" moment in our journey. He was not reachable before that, and has slowly been able to be reached form that day on. It has not always been easy as he has had some starts and stops, but each time, he goes for more support. He did the 90 day residential program, attended outpatient aftercare afterwards, fell again, then went to a mor eintensive IOP. He is doing well right now back at his traditional boarding school. He is sober, getting good grades, and respectful at home for the vast majority of times. It has taken all of the past 2 years to get him through and I suspect we are not fully done, but he is MUCH better. I would highly reccomend you try to get him to attend an IOP program after school. He will fight you on this, but if you can get him to the in-take interview, you may be pleasantly surprised. The guy at the center mine went to have been able to convince a couple other kids I know to also attend his program. For my son, the IOP program was the most meaningful to him. He met many kids there that had lost a lot and sufferred greatly do to drug use. Meeting those kids seemed to greatly impact him and, believe it or not, those kids were good influences....they had all been through so much, they encouraged him to see his behavior differently. HE changed after that program. If he is unwilling to go, you can try to "make" him. Gather up everything that is meaningful to him, his cell, his xbox, etc - he is no longer allowed access to these things, unless he goes to IOP. If all of that doesn't work, there are Wilderness treatment programs that will taking unwilling kids. They are "escorted" in the middle of the night. It's a drastic measure for sure, but if you think he is really at-risk right now, it could be an immediate intervention to just try to get him to the point where you can work with him at home. The goal could just be that, intervention and trying to build an awareness on his side that there is a problem and get him more comfortable in a counseling setting. Then, when he comes home, you move him to an IOP. you can find these through "Infoline" services in most communities. [/QUOTE]
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