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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 596545" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Some of us lived this story and are giving you our experiences. Some have been abuseed ourselves.</p><p></p><p>The problem is, often sexual predators don't get better. They get worse. Even with treatment. My predator son was found trying to perp on kids in the residential treatment center he was at for young sexual predators. It was treatment specifically for boys like the boy/man. I know the child who perped on my kids is out on the streets now with a wife and two daughters and I cringe, but at least he's not in our town and can't hurt our two kids. He is supposed to sign up as a sexual predator. Last time we checked, he was in violation of that order. His wife probably knows nothing of what he had done. And chances are good he is molesting his own daughters since, once he was in treatment, he admitted he had been perping on little kids since he was young. This is something nobody could have known. They don't exactly own up to it.</p><p></p><p>It is your decision if you want to think of this as not a dealbreaking matter. Nobody can tell you to leave him and make you do it. Your daughter SHOULD know why she can't see him. She needs to know that you think what this man/boy did was horrible and that it was not her fault and that he is not safe around her. And if you marry this man, you mean his son will never be invited to the same Christmas holidays and weddings that she will be? Have you ever been sexually molested? It can destroy your life. Just because a child acts fine doesn't mean she's fine. in my opinion you are treading on dangerous water to even consider the marriage and will likely regret it in the end. This isn't a behavior problem of this sixteen year olds. It's a sexual perversion. The cure rate is very low, if existent. Punishment and/or therapy usually do not work...at the very least, you can never trust him for sure, and not just with your daughter. With any kids. He assaulted your daughter. Would you still feel sympathetic toward him if he had beaten your child black and blue? In many ways, this is even worse.</p><p></p><p>It's your life. None of us can tell you what to do with your daughter and it sounds like you love the man so much you won't leave him even for her and perhaps you don't understand the gravity of this sixtgeen year old's problem. I will not tell you to leave again. I just pray that your daughter stays safe.</p><p></p><p>Good luck <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 596545, member: 1550"] Some of us lived this story and are giving you our experiences. Some have been abuseed ourselves. The problem is, often sexual predators don't get better. They get worse. Even with treatment. My predator son was found trying to perp on kids in the residential treatment center he was at for young sexual predators. It was treatment specifically for boys like the boy/man. I know the child who perped on my kids is out on the streets now with a wife and two daughters and I cringe, but at least he's not in our town and can't hurt our two kids. He is supposed to sign up as a sexual predator. Last time we checked, he was in violation of that order. His wife probably knows nothing of what he had done. And chances are good he is molesting his own daughters since, once he was in treatment, he admitted he had been perping on little kids since he was young. This is something nobody could have known. They don't exactly own up to it. It is your decision if you want to think of this as not a dealbreaking matter. Nobody can tell you to leave him and make you do it. Your daughter SHOULD know why she can't see him. She needs to know that you think what this man/boy did was horrible and that it was not her fault and that he is not safe around her. And if you marry this man, you mean his son will never be invited to the same Christmas holidays and weddings that she will be? Have you ever been sexually molested? It can destroy your life. Just because a child acts fine doesn't mean she's fine. in my opinion you are treading on dangerous water to even consider the marriage and will likely regret it in the end. This isn't a behavior problem of this sixteen year olds. It's a sexual perversion. The cure rate is very low, if existent. Punishment and/or therapy usually do not work...at the very least, you can never trust him for sure, and not just with your daughter. With any kids. He assaulted your daughter. Would you still feel sympathetic toward him if he had beaten your child black and blue? In many ways, this is even worse. It's your life. None of us can tell you what to do with your daughter and it sounds like you love the man so much you won't leave him even for her and perhaps you don't understand the gravity of this sixtgeen year old's problem. I will not tell you to leave again. I just pray that your daughter stays safe. Good luck :) [/QUOTE]
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