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Serious help needed!18 yr old, now what?
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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 297827"><p>I like and concur with what the others have said. Surely, you should not blame yourself for these things. You might take any and all opportunities to express your love and concern for your son.</p><p> </p><p>However, please be assured that you have every right to expect peace and safety within your home.</p><p> </p><p>Is your 18 yo seeing a mental health professional currently? Is he taking medication? Perhaps he needs to be seeing both a psychiatrist for medications and a therapist. (by the way, Abilify was a very helpful medication for our daughter. It upset her stomach the first few days and she had to take it with Pepto Bismal. After that, she was fine. For her, a helpful medication).</p><p> </p><p>Does he get fired from jobs a lot? How quickly can he get another job? Even part time work? Does he have any interest in taking classes?</p><p> </p><p>You might explore his interests and help him with these things.</p><p> </p><p>I think I would tell him that at 18, he is a young adult and in order for him to stay in your home he has to show respect and he has to be productive. This means following certain rules and either working or going to school.</p><p> </p><p>If he has Bipolar disorder, perhaps you might ask that he only works part time or go to school part time. However, each one of us, should be productive. Additionally, if he is productive, it will make him feel better about himself and he wont have time to be destructive.</p><p> </p><p>Perhaps you and your husband should privately discuss this and then sit your son down and explain changes you would like to see take place.</p><p> </p><p>If he can not abide by house rules and can not be productive, I would seriously explore what social services are avialable in your community, ask your son to make arrangements to live somewhere else and hand him a list of places that might be able to help him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 297827"] I like and concur with what the others have said. Surely, you should not blame yourself for these things. You might take any and all opportunities to express your love and concern for your son. However, please be assured that you have every right to expect peace and safety within your home. Is your 18 yo seeing a mental health professional currently? Is he taking medication? Perhaps he needs to be seeing both a psychiatrist for medications and a therapist. (by the way, Abilify was a very helpful medication for our daughter. It upset her stomach the first few days and she had to take it with Pepto Bismal. After that, she was fine. For her, a helpful medication). Does he get fired from jobs a lot? How quickly can he get another job? Even part time work? Does he have any interest in taking classes? You might explore his interests and help him with these things. I think I would tell him that at 18, he is a young adult and in order for him to stay in your home he has to show respect and he has to be productive. This means following certain rules and either working or going to school. If he has Bipolar disorder, perhaps you might ask that he only works part time or go to school part time. However, each one of us, should be productive. Additionally, if he is productive, it will make him feel better about himself and he wont have time to be destructive. Perhaps you and your husband should privately discuss this and then sit your son down and explain changes you would like to see take place. If he can not abide by house rules and can not be productive, I would seriously explore what social services are avialable in your community, ask your son to make arrangements to live somewhere else and hand him a list of places that might be able to help him. [/QUOTE]
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