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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 216584" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>RF - would help to know how old your kiddo is. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p> </p><p>I can tell you that thank you for *years* took no responsibility for his choices and laid the blame on others constantly. When there were consequences for his choices, it was always "unfair" to the max. He was always outraged and felt that he was a victim. It was so frustrating because there was that total disconnect in his thinking when it came to cause and effect.</p><p> </p><p>While he's still kind of squirrely sometimes now about consequences, I can tell you he is finally showing a bit of improvement. He still blames others pretty frequently but it's not *always* now. Consequences are still often "unfair" but there are times now when he accepts them pretty well - actually, really well if I think about it. Used to be he'd explode, be very violent, over a consequence. Now he will jaw alot but the physical violence is pretty much gone. He still makes some pretty lousy choices but he will at least acknowledge that there will be consequences - it's like he's making a more informed choice now, if that makes sense.</p><p> </p><p>It's been a really long road with him and for years I really had doubts that he'd ever get it. I can't say he's "gotten it" the way most teens his age do, but compared to where he was 3 or 4 years ago, he's made a ton of progress. </p><p> </p><p>Had to chuckle about your son saying it would be ideal if you moved out. Gotta love our kids. I think I would have just pointed out that you are in your home and that *he* will be the one moving out someday!!! Try not to take it personally (I know it's really hard sometimes) - I think part of it is just typical teen junk but with a difficult child it gets magnified a lot.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 216584, member: 8"] RF - would help to know how old your kiddo is. ;) I can tell you that thank you for *years* took no responsibility for his choices and laid the blame on others constantly. When there were consequences for his choices, it was always "unfair" to the max. He was always outraged and felt that he was a victim. It was so frustrating because there was that total disconnect in his thinking when it came to cause and effect. While he's still kind of squirrely sometimes now about consequences, I can tell you he is finally showing a bit of improvement. He still blames others pretty frequently but it's not *always* now. Consequences are still often "unfair" but there are times now when he accepts them pretty well - actually, really well if I think about it. Used to be he'd explode, be very violent, over a consequence. Now he will jaw alot but the physical violence is pretty much gone. He still makes some pretty lousy choices but he will at least acknowledge that there will be consequences - it's like he's making a more informed choice now, if that makes sense. It's been a really long road with him and for years I really had doubts that he'd ever get it. I can't say he's "gotten it" the way most teens his age do, but compared to where he was 3 or 4 years ago, he's made a ton of progress. Had to chuckle about your son saying it would be ideal if you moved out. Gotta love our kids. I think I would have just pointed out that you are in your home and that *he* will be the one moving out someday!!! Try not to take it personally (I know it's really hard sometimes) - I think part of it is just typical teen junk but with a difficult child it gets magnified a lot. [/QUOTE]
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