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Setting back adoption 100 yrs--rant
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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 158825"><p>I think it is a very sensitive subject and I would be hard pressed to figure out a way to word, esp. legally, how I feel about the topic. I'm not sure I agree with what has been presented in the link, etc. I think it is clear that a loving, qualified family is the best bet for all children. Period.</p><p> </p><p>I do know that my adopted difficult child has told me that she would find it extraordinarily difficult if for example, she had been adopted into a family where both parents were of the same sex or if the family was non-traditional in some other way. Keep in mind, that difficult child does NOT harbor bias,etc. However, as she has explained it to me, she has endured a lot of hardship trying to cope with mean spirited individuals out there in the world who already are cruel to her for her differences. In addition, there is a certain sense of loss she feels just being adopted. To have an obvious difference in her family that would make it clear to the world that she is adopted, would just put more stress on an already stressful situation. Of course, difficult child understands fully that being adopted by a loving family of another race would be far superior and certainly welcomed and needed by any child vs. living in foster care. So, where is the line drawn? Is it reasonable to say that ideally an infant might be placed with parents of the same race? And if minority parents have not been adopting, that more efforts should be made to encourage them to do so? However, once a child is perhaps a year old (just throwing out a number), and still in foster care...the next available, qualified and loving home should receive the child regardless of race differences? Again, it is all very complicated. I never gave it a lot of thought until I heard the words come out of difficult children mouth. She is a person who is totally color blind. This is how she feels today as a young woman and one who is very intelligent. She speaks up loudly on this subject. She has been hurt deeply by the world and even though it is wrong and ashame that these things have happend, she said that especially thinking back as a young child, she would not want to have to tackle additional complications that being adopted into a family of another race could cause.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 158825"] I think it is a very sensitive subject and I would be hard pressed to figure out a way to word, esp. legally, how I feel about the topic. I'm not sure I agree with what has been presented in the link, etc. I think it is clear that a loving, qualified family is the best bet for all children. Period. I do know that my adopted difficult child has told me that she would find it extraordinarily difficult if for example, she had been adopted into a family where both parents were of the same sex or if the family was non-traditional in some other way. Keep in mind, that difficult child does NOT harbor bias,etc. However, as she has explained it to me, she has endured a lot of hardship trying to cope with mean spirited individuals out there in the world who already are cruel to her for her differences. In addition, there is a certain sense of loss she feels just being adopted. To have an obvious difference in her family that would make it clear to the world that she is adopted, would just put more stress on an already stressful situation. Of course, difficult child understands fully that being adopted by a loving family of another race would be far superior and certainly welcomed and needed by any child vs. living in foster care. So, where is the line drawn? Is it reasonable to say that ideally an infant might be placed with parents of the same race? And if minority parents have not been adopting, that more efforts should be made to encourage them to do so? However, once a child is perhaps a year old (just throwing out a number), and still in foster care...the next available, qualified and loving home should receive the child regardless of race differences? Again, it is all very complicated. I never gave it a lot of thought until I heard the words come out of difficult children mouth. She is a person who is totally color blind. This is how she feels today as a young woman and one who is very intelligent. She speaks up loudly on this subject. She has been hurt deeply by the world and even though it is wrong and ashame that these things have happend, she said that especially thinking back as a young child, she would not want to have to tackle additional complications that being adopted into a family of another race could cause. [/QUOTE]
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