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Setting back adoption 100 yrs--rant
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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 158986" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>I agree.</p><p> </p><p>My difficult child has been friends with-a neighbor girl since they were born. She is a yr older. She was a good friend for him because she was rough and tough and hard to bluff. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> She could dish it out AND take it. One day difficult child came home all upset because he said she didn't like him any more because of the color of his skin. I hit the roof and marched him right back out and told him there are plenty of people in this world who will be mean to him for that reason, but she is NOT one of them. Turns out they got into a "regular" fight and it was settled amicably.</p><p>There ARE nasty, idiotic people out there and racism is still alive and well. But "sensitizing" adoptive parents is, well, parental. Every now and then you'll get a family that totally ignores their child's racial heritage, like an adopted blk woman who gave a talk in VA Beach yrs ago, who was raised in a Jewish white family and she ate matzo ball soup instead of chitlins, pigs feet and fried chicken. I don't know a single blk person who eats like that, and I live in the South! but she was very angry and said it took her yrs to find her identity. She had a point but no matter which family you are adopted into, you are a member of THAT family. Adoption is adoption. </p><p> </p><p>Maybe I assume too much, that other parents will expose their children to the wider world around them. I think parents who are too insular in regard to race, when they are involved in a transracial adoption, are the exception rather than the rule. Obviously, these adoption groups think otherwise.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 158986, member: 3419"] I agree. My difficult child has been friends with-a neighbor girl since they were born. She is a yr older. She was a good friend for him because she was rough and tough and hard to bluff. :) She could dish it out AND take it. One day difficult child came home all upset because he said she didn't like him any more because of the color of his skin. I hit the roof and marched him right back out and told him there are plenty of people in this world who will be mean to him for that reason, but she is NOT one of them. Turns out they got into a "regular" fight and it was settled amicably. There ARE nasty, idiotic people out there and racism is still alive and well. But "sensitizing" adoptive parents is, well, parental. Every now and then you'll get a family that totally ignores their child's racial heritage, like an adopted blk woman who gave a talk in VA Beach yrs ago, who was raised in a Jewish white family and she ate matzo ball soup instead of chitlins, pigs feet and fried chicken. I don't know a single blk person who eats like that, and I live in the South! but she was very angry and said it took her yrs to find her identity. She had a point but no matter which family you are adopted into, you are a member of THAT family. Adoption is adoption. Maybe I assume too much, that other parents will expose their children to the wider world around them. I think parents who are too insular in regard to race, when they are involved in a transracial adoption, are the exception rather than the rule. Obviously, these adoption groups think otherwise. [/QUOTE]
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