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Setting back adoption 100 yrs--rant
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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 159654" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Any hardline stance like this from any group just makes me nervous. There is too much potential for great harm to be done, no matter what the good intentions.</p><p></p><p>I don't have any experience with adoption, but I certainly can comment from the family-of-different-races standpoint, for several generations back.</p><p></p><p>My GFGfather's mother AND father were bi-racial (white+black)</p><p>My GFGmother is of black, East Indian, Portuguese and white descent</p><p>I am all of the above.</p><p></p><p>My husband is white (English). </p><p>Little easy child is mixed-race (strangely, he looks Spanish, which is one of the few ethnicities not accounted for in the bloodline)</p><p>difficult child is white--half English, half Ukranian (from biomom). He is fair skinned with blond hair and blue eyes. And he calls me Mom. </p><p></p><p>If they started making rules about who could be parent to whom, I would be very confused indeed. People make assumptions about how our family fits together. Sometimes when it's just difficult child and me, and he calls me Mom, we do get very strange looks from people. But...that's their issue, not mine. I owe them no explanations, and I do not fear their thoughts, whatever those thoughts happen to be.</p><p></p><p>If parents are prepared to love and cherish a child, regardless of the child's race, then they should be allowed to do so. To such a large degree, racial identity is a myth imposed from outside by the people you grow up around.</p><p></p><p>Yes, society has certain biases and will make assumptions. But when, like me, you fit everywhere and nowhere at the same time, you choose your own path. Very freeing.</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 159654, member: 3907"] Any hardline stance like this from any group just makes me nervous. There is too much potential for great harm to be done, no matter what the good intentions. I don't have any experience with adoption, but I certainly can comment from the family-of-different-races standpoint, for several generations back. My GFGfather's mother AND father were bi-racial (white+black) My GFGmother is of black, East Indian, Portuguese and white descent I am all of the above. My husband is white (English). Little easy child is mixed-race (strangely, he looks Spanish, which is one of the few ethnicities not accounted for in the bloodline) difficult child is white--half English, half Ukranian (from biomom). He is fair skinned with blond hair and blue eyes. And he calls me Mom. If they started making rules about who could be parent to whom, I would be very confused indeed. People make assumptions about how our family fits together. Sometimes when it's just difficult child and me, and he calls me Mom, we do get very strange looks from people. But...that's their issue, not mine. I owe them no explanations, and I do not fear their thoughts, whatever those thoughts happen to be. If parents are prepared to love and cherish a child, regardless of the child's race, then they should be allowed to do so. To such a large degree, racial identity is a myth imposed from outside by the people you grow up around. Yes, society has certain biases and will make assumptions. But when, like me, you fit everywhere and nowhere at the same time, you choose your own path. Very freeing. Trinity [/QUOTE]
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