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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 159973" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>-Think about what they are trying to accomplish for a minute. </p><p> </p><p>They want parents to take classes before adopting a child, about that childs' ethnic culture. Right? </p><p> </p><p>Okay - you tell me HOW that gets accomplished in say a week of lessons or even a month of lessons. </p><p> </p><p>And WHAT EXACTLY is it that you'd teach an adoptive parent about another culture other than their own that would pertain to and change the way an established and sound adoptive family already exists? It's almost like backwards integration isnt' it? </p><p> </p><p>If you think about what the slide presentation may be like it's actually kinda funny.</p><p> </p><p>(cue suburban home with tree lined streets and fisherman walking around in the back if in the NE, or If SE - an adobe style home with cacti and tumbleweed blowing across the lawn, or if in the South - a plantation home like Tara with spanish moss hanging in the trees and dog woods in bloom, or if in the NW a grey overcast day with thunderstorms and lightning in the back) See - WHO is stero-typing NOW? </p><p> </p><p>Narrator:</p><p> </p><p>This is a black family (family stands on porch and waives), this baby (close up of white child) is going to be adopted by this lovely family. (everyone smiles) But do they know this childs heritage? (family shakes head no) WHAT in the WORLD could help this little white baby be loved by this family even more? (family shrugs) "I know" says the caseworker - (cue straight laced caseworker) A month long class about white heritage. (family nods) </p><p> </p><p>I mean COME ON people - what could you learn in a month or two or three that would actually change the way this child is raised? And can you really learn about another culture to the point of mimic in a month? This is ludacris. I've lived my whole life around other cultures/colors/ethninticities and I'll NEVER be anything other than how I was raised. </p><p> </p><p>Even with classes on heritage - what they are saying is that with these classes you'll be able to understand a race different than your own and all of a sudden you'll know what it's like to be a white man, black man, Asian, Indian, Native? Never gonna happen. It's a waste of time. Terry was right it would set adoption back 100 years. </p><p> </p><p>When I was adopted there were "guidelines" in place so that the child blended in with it's adopted family. If you were next on the list to receive a baby and both parents were dark haired and dark eyed and the baby born was blond hair with blue eyes - you were not getting that baby from Social services. The next parents on the list matching the looks of the child got the baby. You would wait until a baby matched your heritage and looks. I know this for a fact because had my parents been allowed to have the next birth child on the list - I would be a blond haired blue eyed boy and not dark hair and dark eyes like my mom and dad with almost identical heritage. I'm glad though - A boy named Star would just be too far out. </p><p> </p><p>I think these people need to spend their time, efforts and money educating the people they have trouble reaching TO adopt a same color child, and increase awareness about that if they deem it a problem. Sounds to me like someone was very bitter about their adoption and has gotten some other like-minded people to think along the same narrow viewed lines as them. Sad really - </p><p> </p><p>If I felt mixed race adoptions were a problem? I'd go out and use my resources to make families of that race aware that I felt this was a problem. I certainly wouldn't attack the familes of ANY color that step up and WANT to love a child. They are morons and I think they are being led by a person with some very deep issues. </p><p> </p><p>Just my 38 cents. </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 159973, member: 4964"] -Think about what they are trying to accomplish for a minute. They want parents to take classes before adopting a child, about that childs' ethnic culture. Right? Okay - you tell me HOW that gets accomplished in say a week of lessons or even a month of lessons. And WHAT EXACTLY is it that you'd teach an adoptive parent about another culture other than their own that would pertain to and change the way an established and sound adoptive family already exists? It's almost like backwards integration isnt' it? If you think about what the slide presentation may be like it's actually kinda funny. (cue suburban home with tree lined streets and fisherman walking around in the back if in the NE, or If SE - an adobe style home with cacti and tumbleweed blowing across the lawn, or if in the South - a plantation home like Tara with spanish moss hanging in the trees and dog woods in bloom, or if in the NW a grey overcast day with thunderstorms and lightning in the back) See - WHO is stero-typing NOW? Narrator: This is a black family (family stands on porch and waives), this baby (close up of white child) is going to be adopted by this lovely family. (everyone smiles) But do they know this childs heritage? (family shakes head no) WHAT in the WORLD could help this little white baby be loved by this family even more? (family shrugs) "I know" says the caseworker - (cue straight laced caseworker) A month long class about white heritage. (family nods) I mean COME ON people - what could you learn in a month or two or three that would actually change the way this child is raised? And can you really learn about another culture to the point of mimic in a month? This is ludacris. I've lived my whole life around other cultures/colors/ethninticities and I'll NEVER be anything other than how I was raised. Even with classes on heritage - what they are saying is that with these classes you'll be able to understand a race different than your own and all of a sudden you'll know what it's like to be a white man, black man, Asian, Indian, Native? Never gonna happen. It's a waste of time. Terry was right it would set adoption back 100 years. When I was adopted there were "guidelines" in place so that the child blended in with it's adopted family. If you were next on the list to receive a baby and both parents were dark haired and dark eyed and the baby born was blond hair with blue eyes - you were not getting that baby from Social services. The next parents on the list matching the looks of the child got the baby. You would wait until a baby matched your heritage and looks. I know this for a fact because had my parents been allowed to have the next birth child on the list - I would be a blond haired blue eyed boy and not dark hair and dark eyes like my mom and dad with almost identical heritage. I'm glad though - A boy named Star would just be too far out. I think these people need to spend their time, efforts and money educating the people they have trouble reaching TO adopt a same color child, and increase awareness about that if they deem it a problem. Sounds to me like someone was very bitter about their adoption and has gotten some other like-minded people to think along the same narrow viewed lines as them. Sad really - If I felt mixed race adoptions were a problem? I'd go out and use my resources to make families of that race aware that I felt this was a problem. I certainly wouldn't attack the familes of ANY color that step up and WANT to love a child. They are morons and I think they are being led by a person with some very deep issues. Just my 38 cents. Star [/QUOTE]
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