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She says she's ready ...so how do I help?
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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 743326" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>S has this. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Copa, I feel the same. I have so much regret over not insisting (somehow - I'm not sure how) that she get services. I let her dad's pride and the school district's recalcitrance get in the way of what she needed. I wish we had all been working together to set up a supported, semi-independent adulthood like Sonic's situation instead of forcing her to try to do things she just can't do. I never expected S to go to college, but I thought she could perhaps get an associates degree or trade of some kind and be ok. This is looking less and less likely. </p><p></p><p>Unlike J and Sonic, S started acting out in middle school and was out of control by high school. She was so frustrated and so angry at the world. And she had reasons to be angry at the world. I will always feel that we let her down. </p><p></p><p>But what can we do now except move forward with what is? At least you were able to get J on disability, so he has some income. I don't even have that for S. I think she would have qualified, if she had had testing and diagnosis as a minor. But I don't know what to do about it now. </p><p></p><p>It's so hard to second guess. We did the best we could with the knowledge and resources we had at the time. We have no idea, really, how things would have worked out if we had taken another path. If I keep thinking about it I will go crazy. </p><p></p><p>Heading into the city now. I hope she's still there when I get there. She has a history of standing me up. But I told her we could go to the drug store and buy some personal care items she needs, so I think she will be there. I know she's hungry, too. </p><p></p><p>C started a new job (yay!) and gets off work at 1. So we're going to try to meet up with him there and get something to eat. If it all works out it will be a minor miracle.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 743326, member: 23349"] S has this. Copa, I feel the same. I have so much regret over not insisting (somehow - I'm not sure how) that she get services. I let her dad's pride and the school district's recalcitrance get in the way of what she needed. I wish we had all been working together to set up a supported, semi-independent adulthood like Sonic's situation instead of forcing her to try to do things she just can't do. I never expected S to go to college, but I thought she could perhaps get an associates degree or trade of some kind and be ok. This is looking less and less likely. Unlike J and Sonic, S started acting out in middle school and was out of control by high school. She was so frustrated and so angry at the world. And she had reasons to be angry at the world. I will always feel that we let her down. But what can we do now except move forward with what is? At least you were able to get J on disability, so he has some income. I don't even have that for S. I think she would have qualified, if she had had testing and diagnosis as a minor. But I don't know what to do about it now. It's so hard to second guess. We did the best we could with the knowledge and resources we had at the time. We have no idea, really, how things would have worked out if we had taken another path. If I keep thinking about it I will go crazy. Heading into the city now. I hope she's still there when I get there. She has a history of standing me up. But I told her we could go to the drug store and buy some personal care items she needs, so I think she will be there. I know she's hungry, too. C started a new job (yay!) and gets off work at 1. So we're going to try to meet up with him there and get something to eat. If it all works out it will be a minor miracle. [/QUOTE]
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