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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 752693" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>If you need the money and would otherwise work yourself, or else really feel that you should get paid, absolutely push the issue, although I think your daughter should pay half of it. These days the courts don't expect just Dad to pay. You want to keep Dad on your side.</p><p></p><p>If you don't really miss the money and love your grand so much, I would not do it if this were me. I will explain why. </p><p></p><p>My daughter never liked me much. Like yours, she never acted happy or thankful for anything her dad and I did for her and we did plenty. Tons.</p><p></p><p> Recently we cut off her money supply. She is 33 and I have two loving grateful kids who wanted us to stop for our own sakes. She was making us both sick. We took their advice, knowing they were right. Our therapist had been suggesting we do this too and the Al Anon group that we go to.</p><p></p><p>My daughter has a dear son. Since we haven't been giving her money she won't let us see him. There is nothing we can do. Grandparents have no rights except under a few odd circumstances such as the death of your child. We don't see Jaden anymore. Your daughter could do the same to you. </p><p></p><p>Now if this situation is keeping you up nights, giving you high blood pressure, aggrevating your diabetes or ruining your life, I strongly suggest seeking out a good therapist to help you learn how to make your life better. </p><p></p><p>If you are still okay, I don't know if it's worth disrupting the status quo. Your daughter reminds me of mine. You don't know what she will do, but she is in control of her daughter no matter how deeply you two are bonded. She may even be jealous of that bond, even if she doesn't want it from you. Difficult adult kids are very hard to figure out. They often seem to make no sense. My daughter has strange illogical logic, if that makes sense.</p><p></p><p>I do think, just in case your daughter finds a less friendly SO or decides to move to China, you may want to spend a few days every week with your other loved ones and friends and activities. Don't make your entire life dependent upon one little girl whom your daughter controls. We need balance or we can be destroyed.</p><p></p><p>I do not know how you can make your daughter kind to you. My oldest looks at me as if I have six eyes if I try to tell her how I feel and is not moved by any words. My two other kids love me. We don't need a talk about it, they just do. You can try talking to your daughter. Do you have a spouse and other kids who treat you right? You sound very kind.</p><p></p><p>God bless you and I wish you the best. Stick around. We care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 752693, member: 23706"] If you need the money and would otherwise work yourself, or else really feel that you should get paid, absolutely push the issue, although I think your daughter should pay half of it. These days the courts don't expect just Dad to pay. You want to keep Dad on your side. If you don't really miss the money and love your grand so much, I would not do it if this were me. I will explain why. My daughter never liked me much. Like yours, she never acted happy or thankful for anything her dad and I did for her and we did plenty. Tons. Recently we cut off her money supply. She is 33 and I have two loving grateful kids who wanted us to stop for our own sakes. She was making us both sick. We took their advice, knowing they were right. Our therapist had been suggesting we do this too and the Al Anon group that we go to. My daughter has a dear son. Since we haven't been giving her money she won't let us see him. There is nothing we can do. Grandparents have no rights except under a few odd circumstances such as the death of your child. We don't see Jaden anymore. Your daughter could do the same to you. Now if this situation is keeping you up nights, giving you high blood pressure, aggrevating your diabetes or ruining your life, I strongly suggest seeking out a good therapist to help you learn how to make your life better. If you are still okay, I don't know if it's worth disrupting the status quo. Your daughter reminds me of mine. You don't know what she will do, but she is in control of her daughter no matter how deeply you two are bonded. She may even be jealous of that bond, even if she doesn't want it from you. Difficult adult kids are very hard to figure out. They often seem to make no sense. My daughter has strange illogical logic, if that makes sense. I do think, just in case your daughter finds a less friendly SO or decides to move to China, you may want to spend a few days every week with your other loved ones and friends and activities. Don't make your entire life dependent upon one little girl whom your daughter controls. We need balance or we can be destroyed. I do not know how you can make your daughter kind to you. My oldest looks at me as if I have six eyes if I try to tell her how I feel and is not moved by any words. My two other kids love me. We don't need a talk about it, they just do. You can try talking to your daughter. Do you have a spouse and other kids who treat you right? You sound very kind. God bless you and I wish you the best. Stick around. We care. [/QUOTE]
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