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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 762274" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Getting help for yourself is crucial. I want you to say something out loud. It won't be easy, even if you are alone. My oldest son was very violent with us when he was younger. He came close to permanently harming both his sister and I. Late one night, I called a crisis helpline. The person on the other end was amazing. She asked me to say "I am a victim of domestic violence" out loud. It was the weirdest thing. It felt so wrong, but it was my reality. It is your reality also. Please say "I am a victim of domestic violence" out loud to yourself. It will help drive things home to you and allow you to accept the help you need. At least it will take you a little further down that path to a better life. </p><p></p><p>Google "domestic violence agency" and your city/state/country. Their help is free. When my oldest was 14, he had to go live somewhere else. He came too close to doing permanent physical damage to his sister and I. Even though I was the adult in charge, he abused me. I went to our local DV agency for help. They didn't know what to do with me at first. They worked up a plan for parents who have abusive children. Sadly, it is more useful than they ever expected. I ran into my therapist at the store a few years after I finished therapy with them. After I spoke to her (at our DV agency, if you see them in public they won't say anything or react to you at all unless/until you say something or wave or whatever). My therapist told me that they now have regular groups for parents abused by their children. So there is help out there. It is free at most DV agencies. </p><p></p><p>Does your business use a security company? You might consider using one if you don't already. Talk to them about the problem and the best way to handle it if he does show up and he does get inside. Also talk to your local police for strategies to keep your home, business, car and person safe. It might be a good idea to take some self defense classes. In the US, the YMCA/YWCA may have classes. You can also ask at gyms and martial arts studios for a class. Of course the DV agency will also have resources that may help with this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 762274, member: 1233"] Getting help for yourself is crucial. I want you to say something out loud. It won't be easy, even if you are alone. My oldest son was very violent with us when he was younger. He came close to permanently harming both his sister and I. Late one night, I called a crisis helpline. The person on the other end was amazing. She asked me to say "I am a victim of domestic violence" out loud. It was the weirdest thing. It felt so wrong, but it was my reality. It is your reality also. Please say "I am a victim of domestic violence" out loud to yourself. It will help drive things home to you and allow you to accept the help you need. At least it will take you a little further down that path to a better life. Google "domestic violence agency" and your city/state/country. Their help is free. When my oldest was 14, he had to go live somewhere else. He came too close to doing permanent physical damage to his sister and I. Even though I was the adult in charge, he abused me. I went to our local DV agency for help. They didn't know what to do with me at first. They worked up a plan for parents who have abusive children. Sadly, it is more useful than they ever expected. I ran into my therapist at the store a few years after I finished therapy with them. After I spoke to her (at our DV agency, if you see them in public they won't say anything or react to you at all unless/until you say something or wave or whatever). My therapist told me that they now have regular groups for parents abused by their children. So there is help out there. It is free at most DV agencies. Does your business use a security company? You might consider using one if you don't already. Talk to them about the problem and the best way to handle it if he does show up and he does get inside. Also talk to your local police for strategies to keep your home, business, car and person safe. It might be a good idea to take some self defense classes. In the US, the YMCA/YWCA may have classes. You can also ask at gyms and martial arts studios for a class. Of course the DV agency will also have resources that may help with this. [/QUOTE]
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