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<blockquote data-quote="Farmwife" data-source="post: 336578" data-attributes="member: 8617"><p>I wouldn't panic just yet.</p><p> </p><p> </p><p>Sending those email questions may be her way of trying to contact an expert. Clearly she should read the paper if it is relevant. However it looks to me as if maybe she is doing her best to stick to her guns on this subject and wants to follow the rules by actually consulting with an expert. On that note she is making a sincere effort.</p><p> </p><p>As far as the depression question I see and agree with your reasoning. I also can see her reasoning to a degree. Vampires are uber cool right now. Depression carries a stigma. Unless she has a history of grandiose thought or delusion it may not be so bad as you may expect. Don't rule out her possible need to see psychiatrist of course. Maybe she wants to have the syndrome so she can be a real life vampire not because of her depression but because of her wanting to be something cool. Shock value at this age is cool, look at all the goth and emo sub culture.</p><p> </p><p>Average kids do all sorts of poorly thought out things to get cool points. Maybe she is just at that socially awkward stage and reaching out. Maybe you could mention it to her in a way that doesn't reveal you checking up on her. At this age they consider it snooping and shut you out.</p><p> </p><p>Maybe stepping in to help and support her in her project rather than do for and enable would be good. Clearly she is interested in the subject so if you take an interest with her you could maybe subtly guide her and infuse tidbits of your parental wisdom in a non threatening way. If you think portions of it are interesting or that vampires are cool you would be surprised how she may respond. Feeling you accept her may help her open up to a dialogue about the issue. You can call it a project brainstorming session. You could even go so far as to ask her opinion by taking that depression and putting it in your own words and asking her the same thing.</p><p> </p><p>If she doesn't have the syndrome pretending she does will get boring for her after awhile. I know the subject matter can be frightening but maybe it's just a stage she will outgrow if given a better outlet.</p><p> </p><p>Anime is huge right now. Maybe you could bait her with some cool Japanese comics and she will just want to dress in vivd colors instead of wear black lipstick and white face powder.<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> I have a cool link if you want it. Having actual Japanese comics is a sure fire attention getter which may be all she wants.</p><p> </p><p>Is she artistic? Drawing anime could be fun for her and a good distraction from the darker stuff. Even the darker anime has a very clear imaginary boundary whereas she seems to have found a loophole for the vampire thingy.</p><p> </p><p>She's a smart cookie for that though...I am impressed with her level of independant thought and research even if the topic is questionable.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Farmwife, post: 336578, member: 8617"] I wouldn't panic just yet. Sending those email questions may be her way of trying to contact an expert. Clearly she should read the paper if it is relevant. However it looks to me as if maybe she is doing her best to stick to her guns on this subject and wants to follow the rules by actually consulting with an expert. On that note she is making a sincere effort. As far as the depression question I see and agree with your reasoning. I also can see her reasoning to a degree. Vampires are uber cool right now. Depression carries a stigma. Unless she has a history of grandiose thought or delusion it may not be so bad as you may expect. Don't rule out her possible need to see psychiatrist of course. Maybe she wants to have the syndrome so she can be a real life vampire not because of her depression but because of her wanting to be something cool. Shock value at this age is cool, look at all the goth and emo sub culture. Average kids do all sorts of poorly thought out things to get cool points. Maybe she is just at that socially awkward stage and reaching out. Maybe you could mention it to her in a way that doesn't reveal you checking up on her. At this age they consider it snooping and shut you out. Maybe stepping in to help and support her in her project rather than do for and enable would be good. Clearly she is interested in the subject so if you take an interest with her you could maybe subtly guide her and infuse tidbits of your parental wisdom in a non threatening way. If you think portions of it are interesting or that vampires are cool you would be surprised how she may respond. Feeling you accept her may help her open up to a dialogue about the issue. You can call it a project brainstorming session. You could even go so far as to ask her opinion by taking that depression and putting it in your own words and asking her the same thing. If she doesn't have the syndrome pretending she does will get boring for her after awhile. I know the subject matter can be frightening but maybe it's just a stage she will outgrow if given a better outlet. Anime is huge right now. Maybe you could bait her with some cool Japanese comics and she will just want to dress in vivd colors instead of wear black lipstick and white face powder.:winking: I have a cool link if you want it. Having actual Japanese comics is a sure fire attention getter which may be all she wants. Is she artistic? Drawing anime could be fun for her and a good distraction from the darker stuff. Even the darker anime has a very clear imaginary boundary whereas she seems to have found a loophole for the vampire thingy. She's a smart cookie for that though...I am impressed with her level of independant thought and research even if the topic is questionable. [/QUOTE]
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