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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 760317" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>Hi there. I am glad your son is doing well.</p><p></p><p>I think this is kind of a no guarantees deal with our kids. They take us for up and down rides and we know that it's not going to be a straight ride up or down until/unless they are sober and thriving without us. Do you know what your ex spoke to him about? Maybe your son asked for and received money. That, and other help, is always a hot topic for these young adults. It would be a good sign if he called just to chat!</p><p></p><p></p><p>If you are feeling strong and are ready to contact him WITHOUT ANY EXPECTATIONS then in my opinion that's the best time. If we expect sincere apologies, unconditional love and regret that will carry over to the future....in my opinion that's when and how we get hurt and angry. At least this is true for ME, maybe not you...did not mean to imply we deal with things the same way.</p><p></p><p>Only you know if this is a good time for you to contact him. You miss him certainly. He is your child. I miss Kay. But often I miss the Kay who is nice, kind and loving...and that really isn't Kay. I don't miss the Kay who abuses me and at times contact just broke me in pieces. For my husband and I not hearing from her helps us remain balanced and at peace. Because she is destructive to us. And we are tired Your son is much younger. </p><p></p><p>Such a hard decision this is with no perfect answer. I wish I could tell you the right thing to do for both of you.</p><p></p><p>I send you the wish for peace and calmness as you make this difficult decision. Maybe think about it for two days and see how you feel then. There is no rush to act. Sometimes time is our best friend in decisions like these.</p><p></p><p>Hugs. Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 760317, member: 23706"] Hi there. I am glad your son is doing well. I think this is kind of a no guarantees deal with our kids. They take us for up and down rides and we know that it's not going to be a straight ride up or down until/unless they are sober and thriving without us. Do you know what your ex spoke to him about? Maybe your son asked for and received money. That, and other help, is always a hot topic for these young adults. It would be a good sign if he called just to chat! If you are feeling strong and are ready to contact him WITHOUT ANY EXPECTATIONS then in my opinion that's the best time. If we expect sincere apologies, unconditional love and regret that will carry over to the future....in my opinion that's when and how we get hurt and angry. At least this is true for ME, maybe not you...did not mean to imply we deal with things the same way. Only you know if this is a good time for you to contact him. You miss him certainly. He is your child. I miss Kay. But often I miss the Kay who is nice, kind and loving...and that really isn't Kay. I don't miss the Kay who abuses me and at times contact just broke me in pieces. For my husband and I not hearing from her helps us remain balanced and at peace. Because she is destructive to us. And we are tired Your son is much younger. Such a hard decision this is with no perfect answer. I wish I could tell you the right thing to do for both of you. I send you the wish for peace and calmness as you make this difficult decision. Maybe think about it for two days and see how you feel then. There is no rush to act. Sometimes time is our best friend in decisions like these. Hugs. Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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