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Should I get 18 year old out of jail?
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<blockquote data-quote="ANewLife4Me" data-source="post: 764999" data-attributes="member: 32799"><p>Copa has given great advice but I just wanted to say it’s not your responsibility at all what your son does and therefore should be no guilt on your part. I am coming to terms with this myself as each time she is in jail, gives me too much time to think. But if I take the blinders off of my own eyes, she manipulated both her Dad and I. If I told her no she would threaten with, wait till Daddy gets home, see what he says. They will indeed make you think they are better but, as I am doing with my own daughter, I want to see steady improvement. Her attending mental health counseling and taking medication, holding a steady job as I know she is more than capable of, to contain the verbal abuse and fear of violence towards us. Those are real changes but all I ever received was promises, which were broken as soon as she had gotten her way.</p><p></p><p>It’s never too late, start him out early and lay the groundwork now of what you expect from him and the consequences if he does not comply. Wish I had done this the very first time she went to jail but, wasted 10 years of this back and forth to have no different results. Don’t be me years later, it’s better to do it now. It’s going to be the hardest, heartbreaking thing you will do but, you will know for sure the path he wants to choose. I pray it’s the right one. <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="😊" title="Smiling face with smiling eyes :blush:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/1f60a.png" data-shortname=":blush:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ANewLife4Me, post: 764999, member: 32799"] Copa has given great advice but I just wanted to say it’s not your responsibility at all what your son does and therefore should be no guilt on your part. I am coming to terms with this myself as each time she is in jail, gives me too much time to think. But if I take the blinders off of my own eyes, she manipulated both her Dad and I. If I told her no she would threaten with, wait till Daddy gets home, see what he says. They will indeed make you think they are better but, as I am doing with my own daughter, I want to see steady improvement. Her attending mental health counseling and taking medication, holding a steady job as I know she is more than capable of, to contain the verbal abuse and fear of violence towards us. Those are real changes but all I ever received was promises, which were broken as soon as she had gotten her way. It’s never too late, start him out early and lay the groundwork now of what you expect from him and the consequences if he does not comply. Wish I had done this the very first time she went to jail but, wasted 10 years of this back and forth to have no different results. Don’t be me years later, it’s better to do it now. It’s going to be the hardest, heartbreaking thing you will do but, you will know for sure the path he wants to choose. I pray it’s the right one. 😊 [/QUOTE]
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