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Should I give difficult child $$$ to get married?
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<blockquote data-quote="Kjs" data-source="post: 69152"><p>When I was 21, found out I was pregnant. Thought of getting married, but was advised by social services that it is MUCH easier to get married later. I was also advised to give the child my last name, if we did decide to marry it was only a matter of signing a paper to have baby's name changed.</p><p></p><p>I am so glad I took that advice, as father is an alcoholic and was more interested at where the next party was that providing a home for his child. Yes..he was thrilled to be having a child, wanted to get married and I seriously thought it would be best at the time. But after the baby came and he had better things to do (parties) I realized my baby deserved better than that, even if it was just with me.</p><p></p><p>When I did meet my husband, he was so wonderful to easy child. and to me. We were together 6 years before we got married. My parents paid for the dinner. We didn't even expect that. But..once difficult child came along husband was/is so absorbed with him that easy child and I seem as if we no longer exist/existed.</p><p></p><p>My advice would be to wait. you can always get married. If the baby's father is a good father, make the tie. difficult child may realize that this little person deserves the best. My child changed my whole outlook. Maybe it will do the same with her.</p><p></p><p>If they go through with the wedding...pay a set amount or the hall rental..or photographer or meal. Money may just end up in mother in law's hands or some foolish thing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kjs, post: 69152"] When I was 21, found out I was pregnant. Thought of getting married, but was advised by social services that it is MUCH easier to get married later. I was also advised to give the child my last name, if we did decide to marry it was only a matter of signing a paper to have baby's name changed. I am so glad I took that advice, as father is an alcoholic and was more interested at where the next party was that providing a home for his child. Yes..he was thrilled to be having a child, wanted to get married and I seriously thought it would be best at the time. But after the baby came and he had better things to do (parties) I realized my baby deserved better than that, even if it was just with me. When I did meet my husband, he was so wonderful to easy child. and to me. We were together 6 years before we got married. My parents paid for the dinner. We didn't even expect that. But..once difficult child came along husband was/is so absorbed with him that easy child and I seem as if we no longer exist/existed. My advice would be to wait. you can always get married. If the baby's father is a good father, make the tie. difficult child may realize that this little person deserves the best. My child changed my whole outlook. Maybe it will do the same with her. If they go through with the wedding...pay a set amount or the hall rental..or photographer or meal. Money may just end up in mother in law's hands or some foolish thing. [/QUOTE]
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