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Should I Let the New psychiatrist see the "Real" difficult child?
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 333442" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Seriously - check your motives. If you want her to see difficult child at her worst so she knows how bad things are, and if this is appropriate, then do it. But if you want to prove a point, then don't.</p><p></p><p>I understand the temptation to cut through the smugness to a faster "get real" from the therapist, but the main issue here must always be, how to accurately divine what the problems are with difficult child, and from there how to get the most appropriate help.</p><p></p><p>So to that end - ASK the therapist if she should be medicated or unmedicated for the testing. It could be very important, and on the one hand you could be doing exactly the right thing, but on the other hand you could be doing exactly the wrong thing. The main aim is to get the RIGHT picture and for this, you really need open and frank communication between you and the therapist.</p><p></p><p>If the testing required difficult child to be medicated, then do it that way. You WILL get the chance for therapist to see her unmedicated.</p><p></p><p>When difficult child 1 was having a very important neuropsychologist exam, we accidentally missed his medications that day. It was important. And it was not a good thing, from the point of view of them getting an accurate picture of his diagnosis. They got it wrong, because of this.</p><p></p><p>If in this case the therapist can get through to difficult child with horses even where you couldn't, that still is a win, even if you feel it leaves you with egg on your faces. Chances are at some stage, difficult child will show her true colours. But even if she doesn't - for her to finally accept hippotherapy, is a good thing.</p><p></p><p>difficult child has to be the one to benefit here. All the embarrassing/frustrating stuff - save it up to trot out for her 21st and embarrass her publicly with it then. So if by her 21st, difficult child is an Olympic equestrienne - then remind EVERYONE publicly at her party, just how bad she used to be with horses.</p><p></p><p>To embarrass your kids at their 21st, or their wedding - it's a parent's job. But to keep it honest and real with a therapist and put the embarrassment aside for now (and grit your teeth at the same time) - that is also a parent's job.</p><p></p><p>I do understand the temptation, though.</p><p></p><p>We can dream...</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 333442, member: 1991"] Seriously - check your motives. If you want her to see difficult child at her worst so she knows how bad things are, and if this is appropriate, then do it. But if you want to prove a point, then don't. I understand the temptation to cut through the smugness to a faster "get real" from the therapist, but the main issue here must always be, how to accurately divine what the problems are with difficult child, and from there how to get the most appropriate help. So to that end - ASK the therapist if she should be medicated or unmedicated for the testing. It could be very important, and on the one hand you could be doing exactly the right thing, but on the other hand you could be doing exactly the wrong thing. The main aim is to get the RIGHT picture and for this, you really need open and frank communication between you and the therapist. If the testing required difficult child to be medicated, then do it that way. You WILL get the chance for therapist to see her unmedicated. When difficult child 1 was having a very important neuropsychologist exam, we accidentally missed his medications that day. It was important. And it was not a good thing, from the point of view of them getting an accurate picture of his diagnosis. They got it wrong, because of this. If in this case the therapist can get through to difficult child with horses even where you couldn't, that still is a win, even if you feel it leaves you with egg on your faces. Chances are at some stage, difficult child will show her true colours. But even if she doesn't - for her to finally accept hippotherapy, is a good thing. difficult child has to be the one to benefit here. All the embarrassing/frustrating stuff - save it up to trot out for her 21st and embarrass her publicly with it then. So if by her 21st, difficult child is an Olympic equestrienne - then remind EVERYONE publicly at her party, just how bad she used to be with horses. To embarrass your kids at their 21st, or their wedding - it's a parent's job. But to keep it honest and real with a therapist and put the embarrassment aside for now (and grit your teeth at the same time) - that is also a parent's job. I do understand the temptation, though. We can dream... Marg [/QUOTE]
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