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Should I make him replace it?
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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 109496" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I'd have him replace it. Like you said, at 16 he should know better. And in the adult world he would be expected to replace something he damaged, intentional or not. 16 may not be fully cooked, which I agree with, but adulthood isn't far away and it's best to learn such things at home.</p><p></p><p>I wouldn't make a huge deal out of it. And I'd be sure to tell him you're proud of him for taking responsibility for what he did. But taking responsibility also means trying to correct a wrong doing. In this he only went half way. Telling you was the first half, replacing it is the second half.</p><p></p><p>My kids have grown up knowing if you break something belonging to another person you are automatically expected to replace it, accident or not. I use it as a lesson in repect for others.</p><p></p><p>That said, Heather you need to treat yourself better. Doing without so bills get paid or something is one thing, doing without so that your child gets your new slippers and you end up with their old ones is not treating yourself right. You are important too, and so are your needs/wants. So many of us parents do this, I used to too, and we don't realize what a toll it can take on us over time. I woke up when I realized my kids were dressed well, but I was embarrassing them because I had been going without to the point my wardrobe made me look like a homeless person.</p><p></p><p>You have a right to have special things. You have the right to expect your children to leave those things alone.</p><p></p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 109496, member: 84"] I'd have him replace it. Like you said, at 16 he should know better. And in the adult world he would be expected to replace something he damaged, intentional or not. 16 may not be fully cooked, which I agree with, but adulthood isn't far away and it's best to learn such things at home. I wouldn't make a huge deal out of it. And I'd be sure to tell him you're proud of him for taking responsibility for what he did. But taking responsibility also means trying to correct a wrong doing. In this he only went half way. Telling you was the first half, replacing it is the second half. My kids have grown up knowing if you break something belonging to another person you are automatically expected to replace it, accident or not. I use it as a lesson in repect for others. That said, Heather you need to treat yourself better. Doing without so bills get paid or something is one thing, doing without so that your child gets your new slippers and you end up with their old ones is not treating yourself right. You are important too, and so are your needs/wants. So many of us parents do this, I used to too, and we don't realize what a toll it can take on us over time. I woke up when I realized my kids were dressed well, but I was embarrassing them because I had been going without to the point my wardrobe made me look like a homeless person. You have a right to have special things. You have the right to expect your children to leave those things alone. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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