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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 109530"><p>Thank you for all of the opinions. You all have really made me think. But, I have to say, Beth, that spelling it out like you did helped me make my decision.</p><p></p><p>I've been back and forth on this for a few reasons. I tend to have a lot of guilt because I've been sick for so long and I know that it's not fair to him. He is a really cool kid, with a great heart and a quirky sense of humor. But, it's not usually directed at me. He always remembers his dad's, step-mom's, grandmother's, sisters' (in Georgia), and friend's birthdays - or asks me to remind him - but he never remembers mine or difficult child's. Not that I expect a gift, but a 'Happy Birthday, Mom' would be nice. difficult child always remembers. What I usually get from easy child is - after receiving a handmade card from difficult child - is, 'Oh. I didn't know it was your birthday today.' My birthday is 6 days before his so it's not like it's hard for him to remember.</p><p></p><p>He had friends over Wednesday night. He knew I had plans on Thursday - was going shopping with my mom. I get out of the shower Thursday and he's *demanding* that I take his friend (not the one I posted about before) home right then. Said I've been sleeping all day and they've been waiting all day for me to get up so I could take him home. I told him that I had NOT been sleeping all day - that I laid down at 8am and slept til 11am (love those steroids) and that I would take him home, but he would have to wait until Nana got here as she was already on her way. That wasn't good enough. He goes and tells his friend that I won't take him home and I have to step in and tell his friend that I will take him home, he just has to wait until my mom gets there. His friend was fine with that. by the way, when we dropped friend off, friend's mom was home.</p><p></p><p>Then, while we're out shopping Thursday (been gone about 3 hours) he calls my mom's cell wanting to know when we're going to be back cause he and his friends need a ride to the XBOX360/PS3 party at another friend's house. My mom tells him we will get there when we get there and if that wasn't good enough then he should make other arrangements.</p><p></p><p>Then, I knew we needed 2 more surge protectors in use, but I thought we had one more at the house so I called easy child to have him check so I knew how many to buy. difficult child answered and I asked to talk to easy child. Well, easy child was playing Guitar Hero and couldn't come to the phone right then (AND - cause I could hear it in the background - he was playing 'Freebird'...know how long that song is?). I gave the phone to my mom and asked her to deal with it. She told difficult child to tell easy child to pause the game - yes, it can be paused - and told easy child he was rude.</p><p></p><p>I don't have many special things. I don't get attached to material things - except for shoes :wink: - very often. But, my kids are both old enough that if I have something, they shouldn't bother it. Period. I don't go into his room and start messing with his PS3 controllers.</p><p></p><p>So, I found the item online and I'm going to email it to him, tell him how special the item is and see what he does with it. It cannot replace the sentimental value, but I can keep the damaged item out of use so it doesn't completely break and then keep the replacement item as a reminder of the original.</p><p></p><p>by the way, I *love* the cooking analogy. I use it all the time. easy child was 11 days late, so I always said he was 'well done', which is why he's a easy child and difficult child was a week early; she wasn't done cookin'. :smile:</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 109530"] Thank you for all of the opinions. You all have really made me think. But, I have to say, Beth, that spelling it out like you did helped me make my decision. I've been back and forth on this for a few reasons. I tend to have a lot of guilt because I've been sick for so long and I know that it's not fair to him. He is a really cool kid, with a great heart and a quirky sense of humor. But, it's not usually directed at me. He always remembers his dad's, step-mom's, grandmother's, sisters' (in Georgia), and friend's birthdays - or asks me to remind him - but he never remembers mine or difficult child's. Not that I expect a gift, but a 'Happy Birthday, Mom' would be nice. difficult child always remembers. What I usually get from easy child is - after receiving a handmade card from difficult child - is, 'Oh. I didn't know it was your birthday today.' My birthday is 6 days before his so it's not like it's hard for him to remember. He had friends over Wednesday night. He knew I had plans on Thursday - was going shopping with my mom. I get out of the shower Thursday and he's *demanding* that I take his friend (not the one I posted about before) home right then. Said I've been sleeping all day and they've been waiting all day for me to get up so I could take him home. I told him that I had NOT been sleeping all day - that I laid down at 8am and slept til 11am (love those steroids) and that I would take him home, but he would have to wait until Nana got here as she was already on her way. That wasn't good enough. He goes and tells his friend that I won't take him home and I have to step in and tell his friend that I will take him home, he just has to wait until my mom gets there. His friend was fine with that. by the way, when we dropped friend off, friend's mom was home. Then, while we're out shopping Thursday (been gone about 3 hours) he calls my mom's cell wanting to know when we're going to be back cause he and his friends need a ride to the XBOX360/PS3 party at another friend's house. My mom tells him we will get there when we get there and if that wasn't good enough then he should make other arrangements. Then, I knew we needed 2 more surge protectors in use, but I thought we had one more at the house so I called easy child to have him check so I knew how many to buy. difficult child answered and I asked to talk to easy child. Well, easy child was playing Guitar Hero and couldn't come to the phone right then (AND - cause I could hear it in the background - he was playing 'Freebird'...know how long that song is?). I gave the phone to my mom and asked her to deal with it. She told difficult child to tell easy child to pause the game - yes, it can be paused - and told easy child he was rude. I don't have many special things. I don't get attached to material things - except for shoes [img]:wink:[/img] - very often. But, my kids are both old enough that if I have something, they shouldn't bother it. Period. I don't go into his room and start messing with his PS3 controllers. So, I found the item online and I'm going to email it to him, tell him how special the item is and see what he does with it. It cannot replace the sentimental value, but I can keep the damaged item out of use so it doesn't completely break and then keep the replacement item as a reminder of the original. by the way, I *love* the cooking analogy. I use it all the time. easy child was 11 days late, so I always said he was 'well done', which is why he's a easy child and difficult child was a week early; she wasn't done cookin'. [img]:smile:[/img] [/QUOTE]
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