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Should we kick our 16 yr old son out?
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<blockquote data-quote="Origami" data-source="post: 639631" data-attributes="member: 18099"><p>Your son sounds something like mine, who can be wonderful, sweet, funny and kind, but can also be mean-spirited, uncooperative, and maddening.</p><p></p><p>I'm not sure kicking your son out is the answer right now, but if things escalate or you feel threatened physically, you can keep this as something to consider. As has been mentioned, his age may make it difficult and you would have to find out about the laws in your area.</p><p></p><p>My son quit school twice, both times in 9th grade (ages 15 and 16). He is smart, but had no interest in going to class, doing assignments, etc. I struggled for years to keep him in, and found myself at the school more than he was just to meet with various teachers and counselors. He did get his GED this summer and is currently taking automotive technology classes at the community college, which he loves. Maybe your son will thrive in the culinary world if it's something he loves. Everybody isn't cut out for regular school, and based on my experience, it might not be the end of the world if your son pursues a different path. In fact, although it used to hurt me to even drive past the high school after he dropped out, looking back I'm glad I pulled him out when I did, and I didn't have to deal with two more years of the constant arguing, struggling, etc. of trying to get him to go to school. I'm not encouraging you to let him drop out, but just saying not to worry yourself sick about it if he won't go.</p><p></p><p>As for the rest of it, you should read the forums to find out about how to set and enforce boundaries in your household. I've had so much to learn in this area and have made some progress, and agree with others here that you shouldn't feel like you have no say in what happens in your house. I had an issue with my son driving our car without permission (without even a license), and we were able to put a stop to that. It's an ongoing process where you find your strength to be good to yourself. You'll receive some very good advice from other people here, and we can sympathize and understand your problems.</p><p></p><p>Hugs--</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Origami, post: 639631, member: 18099"] Your son sounds something like mine, who can be wonderful, sweet, funny and kind, but can also be mean-spirited, uncooperative, and maddening. I'm not sure kicking your son out is the answer right now, but if things escalate or you feel threatened physically, you can keep this as something to consider. As has been mentioned, his age may make it difficult and you would have to find out about the laws in your area. My son quit school twice, both times in 9th grade (ages 15 and 16). He is smart, but had no interest in going to class, doing assignments, etc. I struggled for years to keep him in, and found myself at the school more than he was just to meet with various teachers and counselors. He did get his GED this summer and is currently taking automotive technology classes at the community college, which he loves. Maybe your son will thrive in the culinary world if it's something he loves. Everybody isn't cut out for regular school, and based on my experience, it might not be the end of the world if your son pursues a different path. In fact, although it used to hurt me to even drive past the high school after he dropped out, looking back I'm glad I pulled him out when I did, and I didn't have to deal with two more years of the constant arguing, struggling, etc. of trying to get him to go to school. I'm not encouraging you to let him drop out, but just saying not to worry yourself sick about it if he won't go. As for the rest of it, you should read the forums to find out about how to set and enforce boundaries in your household. I've had so much to learn in this area and have made some progress, and agree with others here that you shouldn't feel like you have no say in what happens in your house. I had an issue with my son driving our car without permission (without even a license), and we were able to put a stop to that. It's an ongoing process where you find your strength to be good to yourself. You'll receive some very good advice from other people here, and we can sympathize and understand your problems. Hugs-- [/QUOTE]
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