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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 421109" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I personally think it is really true...he probably gets so wound out that he can't stop it. Is it normal? No. I did not realize it was this bad. He is violent and this is not the norm. Do you know anything at all about his biological background (genetics)? Kids are not born a blank slate. I am always awed and amazed at the baby nursery, how different the infants are at birth. Some are looking around, some are crying, some are sleeping...all of my kid had personalities from the beginning. You are not writing on a blackboard. Much of who he is was there before you ever met him!</p><p></p><p>If your child has some kind of disorder, which I know you don't like to hear but I am too honest not say it, then normal parenting does not work. That is why it is important to get an idea of what is going on...so that you can modify your parenting the best you can and to not think "he is a brat." Why would he be a brat? What would he want to displease you? Is he sorry afterward? </p><p></p><p>I have to say, I am n Occupational Therapist (OT) a fan of spanking our kids. It does not help them. If he hits you and you hit him back you are showing a lack of control when our special kids need us to be in control. However, it is not the end of the world that you have lost your temper. Most of us have. Can you seek therapy for yourself in learning how to better deal with this child? Perhaps they will not help him yet because he is too young, but they MUST have somebody who can give you advice and support.</p><p></p><p>Does his father ever see him? It would be a break for you if he did. Do you have family that can give you some respite? Friends? You seem to spend so much time worrying about him. I would 1/Admit he is different and that you need to get help or him or yourself or both. 2/Take out time just to enjoy yourself so that you can relax and have fun without him around you all the time, if this is possible.</p><p></p><p>Often our children have good weeks and bad weeks...it almost seems to cycle. We think we are out of the woods, and then they act up again. </p><p></p><p>(((Hugs))). You are a great parent so do not worry about a mistake. We all have them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 421109, member: 1550"] I personally think it is really true...he probably gets so wound out that he can't stop it. Is it normal? No. I did not realize it was this bad. He is violent and this is not the norm. Do you know anything at all about his biological background (genetics)? Kids are not born a blank slate. I am always awed and amazed at the baby nursery, how different the infants are at birth. Some are looking around, some are crying, some are sleeping...all of my kid had personalities from the beginning. You are not writing on a blackboard. Much of who he is was there before you ever met him! If your child has some kind of disorder, which I know you don't like to hear but I am too honest not say it, then normal parenting does not work. That is why it is important to get an idea of what is going on...so that you can modify your parenting the best you can and to not think "he is a brat." Why would he be a brat? What would he want to displease you? Is he sorry afterward? I have to say, I am n Occupational Therapist (OT) a fan of spanking our kids. It does not help them. If he hits you and you hit him back you are showing a lack of control when our special kids need us to be in control. However, it is not the end of the world that you have lost your temper. Most of us have. Can you seek therapy for yourself in learning how to better deal with this child? Perhaps they will not help him yet because he is too young, but they MUST have somebody who can give you advice and support. Does his father ever see him? It would be a break for you if he did. Do you have family that can give you some respite? Friends? You seem to spend so much time worrying about him. I would 1/Admit he is different and that you need to get help or him or yourself or both. 2/Take out time just to enjoy yourself so that you can relax and have fun without him around you all the time, if this is possible. Often our children have good weeks and bad weeks...it almost seems to cycle. We think we are out of the woods, and then they act up again. (((Hugs))). You are a great parent so do not worry about a mistake. We all have them. [/QUOTE]
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