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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 421177" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I won't tell you about Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) because I know you aren't interested (ahem) <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> but these kids tend to think of all people as the same. They think of parents as the same as peers and will stick up for themselves rather than be submissive. They have a strong sense of fairness and often argue with people they should not. </p><p></p><p>Now...I've also said that my daughter does this too. However, her reason is different. She is not Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) (very socially adept in fact). But since she was sexually abused by our adopted older child, we made sure she was able to say "no" to everyone equally and not necessarily listen to somebody just because he/she was an authority figure. That is how many children ARE abused...a teacher says "Come into my car" and the child feels she should because the teacher is in authority. So there are other reasons too, but Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) is one.</p><p></p><p>I adopted four children (aside from the one who was dangerous and left). One was a control freak...we no longer see him, but he came at age six. The other adopted children are fairly easygoing and compliant. Even the one who took drugs was never into control...she was simply insecure and a lot of that had to do with my divorce (I still feel gulilty about that...she knows I feel guilty and laughs at me every time I apologize AGAIN). </p><p></p><p>There is just no way to say why your child does what he does. My guess is a lot of it is hereditary. And some of it is some disorder which you will have no choice but to visit later on. The world will not adapt to him the way you do...and that is often when our children unfortunately get into trouble with their ideas of the world and social norms. While my son (now eighteen) got so much better behaviorally as he grew older, his differences became more obvious. You exchange on thing for another...it is not an easy road, but you seem tough and up to the task. Losing your temper one time means nothing...we have all done it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 421177, member: 1550"] I won't tell you about Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) because I know you aren't interested (ahem) :) but these kids tend to think of all people as the same. They think of parents as the same as peers and will stick up for themselves rather than be submissive. They have a strong sense of fairness and often argue with people they should not. Now...I've also said that my daughter does this too. However, her reason is different. She is not Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) (very socially adept in fact). But since she was sexually abused by our adopted older child, we made sure she was able to say "no" to everyone equally and not necessarily listen to somebody just because he/she was an authority figure. That is how many children ARE abused...a teacher says "Come into my car" and the child feels she should because the teacher is in authority. So there are other reasons too, but Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) is one. I adopted four children (aside from the one who was dangerous and left). One was a control freak...we no longer see him, but he came at age six. The other adopted children are fairly easygoing and compliant. Even the one who took drugs was never into control...she was simply insecure and a lot of that had to do with my divorce (I still feel gulilty about that...she knows I feel guilty and laughs at me every time I apologize AGAIN). There is just no way to say why your child does what he does. My guess is a lot of it is hereditary. And some of it is some disorder which you will have no choice but to visit later on. The world will not adapt to him the way you do...and that is often when our children unfortunately get into trouble with their ideas of the world and social norms. While my son (now eighteen) got so much better behaviorally as he grew older, his differences became more obvious. You exchange on thing for another...it is not an easy road, but you seem tough and up to the task. Losing your temper one time means nothing...we have all done it. [/QUOTE]
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