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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 422393" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Malika - </p><p> </p><p>I just had to say "I'll be your Huckleberry" .....lol - you know OK Corale - doctor Holliday - ahem - never mind. </p><p> </p><p>Anyway - I have a suggestion since he's 4.....May seem a little odd, but it's kind of a play therapy tactic that I used to do with Dude that (while a little lame) worked with him pretty good when his Biofather wasn't around to mess it up. Puppets. Just plain old sock puppets. Decorate one or two - Or if you have money? Try and buy a couple nice ones - maybe even three if your son wants to get in on the act. Like I said I KNOW this sounds crazy - but hear me out. He's 4. Sometimes four year olds will talk to a stuffed animal, or a character even IF it's on the end of your hand before they will talk to you. When Dude was little - I hardly ever had any problems getting him to go to bed, or to pick up toys. When I did? Mr. Sock Puppet would appear and HE would have to do all the work. Mr. Sock puppet (on the end of Mommy's hand) would go in his room, and start cleaning up and struggle to lift the toys, and struggle to fix the bed, and struggle to do the chores and voila - here comes Dude to help - Mr. Sock Puppet - he'd talk to the puppet, he'd hug the puppet - he would HELP the puppet - and if the puppet said TIME for us to get into bed - by golly he'd get into bed.</p><p> </p><p>Then Mr. sock puppet would tell ME - he wanted to stay with Dude. and off my hand he'd come - and onto Dude's hand he'd go - and then they would lay there in bed - and fall asleep - because MR sock puppet didn't want to get out of bed and loose a star. Would Dude help him keep his stars on his chart? And then Piasan - the other sock puppet always got into a little mischief - well Dude and Mr sock puppet figured he should always go with me because he got THEM into trouble. Piasan threw toys out of the toy box, he didn't listen, he got put into time out a lot. It deflects - but it assists. </p><p> </p><p>As far as the time thing? Dude ALWAYS did better if we said - 15 minutes of time left - 10 minutes left.....5 minute warning bell - start wrapping it up. OKAY buddy boy - you have one minute left.......lets time you and see how fast you are - CAN YOU BEAT ME to your bed??? 50, 49, 48.....etc. 10, 9,8, ..where is he????? IS HE GOING TO BEAT ME TO BED and get a super reward?? 5, 4. 3. 2.....1 3/4.....1.....zero - OMgosh HE DID IT -----the crowd goes crazy ....wowowhoooooo. LOOK at that WONDER BOY!!! does he have the best muscles? Yes he does. I bet they are rock hard - let me feel them....he got those running to his bed on time. AWESOME! AWESOME. </p><p> </p><p>Things like that - if he could beat me to the bathroom - and brush his teeth before me - and beat the clock and get in bed before me - HE picked the story for bed. Or he got to pick from the happy box - just yardsale stuff like stickers and little things like that. But he won something and got love, hugs and a story - or he'd just get the story. or to pick the story - some nights Mr. Sock puppet got to pick the story - and when he was sad? Wouldn't talk to me? He would tell Mr. Sock puppet. </p><p> </p><p>Just thought maybe it was worth a shot.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 422393, member: 4964"] Malika - I just had to say "I'll be your Huckleberry" .....lol - you know OK Corale - doctor Holliday - ahem - never mind. Anyway - I have a suggestion since he's 4.....May seem a little odd, but it's kind of a play therapy tactic that I used to do with Dude that (while a little lame) worked with him pretty good when his Biofather wasn't around to mess it up. Puppets. Just plain old sock puppets. Decorate one or two - Or if you have money? Try and buy a couple nice ones - maybe even three if your son wants to get in on the act. Like I said I KNOW this sounds crazy - but hear me out. He's 4. Sometimes four year olds will talk to a stuffed animal, or a character even IF it's on the end of your hand before they will talk to you. When Dude was little - I hardly ever had any problems getting him to go to bed, or to pick up toys. When I did? Mr. Sock Puppet would appear and HE would have to do all the work. Mr. Sock puppet (on the end of Mommy's hand) would go in his room, and start cleaning up and struggle to lift the toys, and struggle to fix the bed, and struggle to do the chores and voila - here comes Dude to help - Mr. Sock Puppet - he'd talk to the puppet, he'd hug the puppet - he would HELP the puppet - and if the puppet said TIME for us to get into bed - by golly he'd get into bed. Then Mr. sock puppet would tell ME - he wanted to stay with Dude. and off my hand he'd come - and onto Dude's hand he'd go - and then they would lay there in bed - and fall asleep - because MR sock puppet didn't want to get out of bed and loose a star. Would Dude help him keep his stars on his chart? And then Piasan - the other sock puppet always got into a little mischief - well Dude and Mr sock puppet figured he should always go with me because he got THEM into trouble. Piasan threw toys out of the toy box, he didn't listen, he got put into time out a lot. It deflects - but it assists. As far as the time thing? Dude ALWAYS did better if we said - 15 minutes of time left - 10 minutes left.....5 minute warning bell - start wrapping it up. OKAY buddy boy - you have one minute left.......lets time you and see how fast you are - CAN YOU BEAT ME to your bed??? 50, 49, 48.....etc. 10, 9,8, ..where is he????? IS HE GOING TO BEAT ME TO BED and get a super reward?? 5, 4. 3. 2.....1 3/4.....1.....zero - OMgosh HE DID IT -----the crowd goes crazy ....wowowhoooooo. LOOK at that WONDER BOY!!! does he have the best muscles? Yes he does. I bet they are rock hard - let me feel them....he got those running to his bed on time. AWESOME! AWESOME. Things like that - if he could beat me to the bathroom - and brush his teeth before me - and beat the clock and get in bed before me - HE picked the story for bed. Or he got to pick from the happy box - just yardsale stuff like stickers and little things like that. But he won something and got love, hugs and a story - or he'd just get the story. or to pick the story - some nights Mr. Sock puppet got to pick the story - and when he was sad? Wouldn't talk to me? He would tell Mr. Sock puppet. Just thought maybe it was worth a shot. [/QUOTE]
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