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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 476867" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Well, I'd say those are pretty good guesses, IC. I think 1 and 2 seem particularly valid - he is very sensitive and I think he probably does take being scolded as an attack rather than as a natural event in a top-down hierarchy... He accepts my authority a bit more than he used to, though; this is good not because I want authority (I actually don't particularly <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" />) but because accepting that makes a child feel more attached and secure. And perhaps 4 does come into play too. 3 I don't think so because he was only 18 months when we separated and no-one ever scolded him for anything at that age. On the other hand, he did see a couple of scenes of my ex-husband being verbally abusive and totally out of control with me. Moroccan males are often very volatile and highly emotional - the ones that don't say the prayers and who drink and smoke hash, particularly (my ex-husband has now become the praying, non-drinking and non-smoking kind...) So one might say it is perhaps in J's genes also?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 476867, member: 11227"] Well, I'd say those are pretty good guesses, IC. I think 1 and 2 seem particularly valid - he is very sensitive and I think he probably does take being scolded as an attack rather than as a natural event in a top-down hierarchy... He accepts my authority a bit more than he used to, though; this is good not because I want authority (I actually don't particularly :)) but because accepting that makes a child feel more attached and secure. And perhaps 4 does come into play too. 3 I don't think so because he was only 18 months when we separated and no-one ever scolded him for anything at that age. On the other hand, he did see a couple of scenes of my ex-husband being verbally abusive and totally out of control with me. Moroccan males are often very volatile and highly emotional - the ones that don't say the prayers and who drink and smoke hash, particularly (my ex-husband has now become the praying, non-drinking and non-smoking kind...) So one might say it is perhaps in J's genes also? [/QUOTE]
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