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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 560734" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>That is something we have tried to point out to easy child. Just because difficult child has problems doesn't mean he doesn't have any strengths. And just because he does have problems doesn't mean he doesn't deserve to have also good things happening to him. I have also tried to point out how easy child should appreciate his own strengths more and be thankful he has so many of them. We have also talked how difficult child was born different and he hasn't really chosen for example his neurological differences. And that both easy child and difficult child have to learn to take everything out of their strengths and live with their limitations and make a best life they can from it. And that looking the big picture they are both pretty darn lucky ones compared to all kids all over the world born at the same time they were. But all that is of course rather big thing for easy child to comprehend. </p><p></p><p>In this specific sport situation the easier way for easy child to accept it is to try to make him think about these things from coaches point of view. Both why his team mate was chosen instead of him and why difficult child is getting extra chances. Luckily they do play different positions and difficult child's position is one of those little different ones. Bit like a pitcher in baseball. Even if the whole team expect the pitcher plays great, but pitcher is bad, the team has difficult time winning. So other players often rather stand prickly great pitcher than have a bad pitcher who is a great guy. easy child is a real team player and gets that logic. So he kind of does get that even with difficult child character issues and even with him struggling, the fact that his best is better than the best of the other current options makes it very tempting for coaches to try everything to get difficult child out of his slump and performing on his best level because that would really help rest of the team. But being disappointed on being cut himself, he really doesn't want to consider that point of view, even though he does get it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 560734, member: 14557"] That is something we have tried to point out to easy child. Just because difficult child has problems doesn't mean he doesn't have any strengths. And just because he does have problems doesn't mean he doesn't deserve to have also good things happening to him. I have also tried to point out how easy child should appreciate his own strengths more and be thankful he has so many of them. We have also talked how difficult child was born different and he hasn't really chosen for example his neurological differences. And that both easy child and difficult child have to learn to take everything out of their strengths and live with their limitations and make a best life they can from it. And that looking the big picture they are both pretty darn lucky ones compared to all kids all over the world born at the same time they were. But all that is of course rather big thing for easy child to comprehend. In this specific sport situation the easier way for easy child to accept it is to try to make him think about these things from coaches point of view. Both why his team mate was chosen instead of him and why difficult child is getting extra chances. Luckily they do play different positions and difficult child's position is one of those little different ones. Bit like a pitcher in baseball. Even if the whole team expect the pitcher plays great, but pitcher is bad, the team has difficult time winning. So other players often rather stand prickly great pitcher than have a bad pitcher who is a great guy. easy child is a real team player and gets that logic. So he kind of does get that even with difficult child character issues and even with him struggling, the fact that his best is better than the best of the other current options makes it very tempting for coaches to try everything to get difficult child out of his slump and performing on his best level because that would really help rest of the team. But being disappointed on being cut himself, he really doesn't want to consider that point of view, even though he does get it. [/QUOTE]
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