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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 560868" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I do believe this is normal development for easy child too. I'm just not too fond of it <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p></p><p>I'm also not quite sure how I want to deal with broken item thing. My mommy gut says it was not broken in total accident, but I have absolutely no proof. easy child's story is of course that it was an accident and when I implied to husband I have my doubts about that, he basically blamed me projecting difficult child's troubled ways to easy child. But let's face it. The broken item just happens to be difficult child's sport memento. It was in difficult child's room, either in open shelf with his trophies or in closed closet. If easy child just happened to need item like that, there would had been several around the house with no sentimental value at all. So basically this is a case of little brother taking the ball big brother hit the breaking home run in state championship game to play catch with neighbours pit bull. Raise a hand if you believe in total accident-story.</p><p></p><p>Luckily difficult child is not much of a sentimentalist and neither a collector, he will not be too upset about this. And if easy child tells him it was an accident, he will believe it. He is as much in denial on easy child being able to do something like that in purpose as husband.</p><p></p><p>That leaves me three possible ways to deal with this:</p><p></p><p>- I can confront easy child about it. As said, I don't have proof and if he denies it, husband will side with him and we will end up with another fight over difficult child most likely. Not wanting to go there.</p><p></p><p>- I can let easy child tell difficult child it was an accident and let husband believe so too, but have a private talk with easy child and tell him that I know the truth, he knows it and if he doesn't want me to tell husband or difficult child he better make some amends to difficult child</p><p></p><p>or</p><p></p><p>- I can just let it play out. Let easy child tell difficult child it was an accident and pretend to believe it myself and let bad conscience do a disciplining for me. This would probably be a toughest way for easy child, because here he <strong>is </strong>very different from difficult child. While breaking something behind a back of a person you are envious, angry or something with would be very difficult child thing to do, he would very strongly believe it is that other person's fault all together and it would need a lot of talking and coaching to make him take accountability. But easy child will feel really bad over this and it will eat him alive he has done something like this to difficult child.</p><p></p><p>I'm not really liking any of my options. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/sigh.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sigh:" title="sigh :sigh:" data-shortname=":sigh:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 560868, member: 14557"] I do believe this is normal development for easy child too. I'm just not too fond of it :winking: I'm also not quite sure how I want to deal with broken item thing. My mommy gut says it was not broken in total accident, but I have absolutely no proof. easy child's story is of course that it was an accident and when I implied to husband I have my doubts about that, he basically blamed me projecting difficult child's troubled ways to easy child. But let's face it. The broken item just happens to be difficult child's sport memento. It was in difficult child's room, either in open shelf with his trophies or in closed closet. If easy child just happened to need item like that, there would had been several around the house with no sentimental value at all. So basically this is a case of little brother taking the ball big brother hit the breaking home run in state championship game to play catch with neighbours pit bull. Raise a hand if you believe in total accident-story. Luckily difficult child is not much of a sentimentalist and neither a collector, he will not be too upset about this. And if easy child tells him it was an accident, he will believe it. He is as much in denial on easy child being able to do something like that in purpose as husband. That leaves me three possible ways to deal with this: - I can confront easy child about it. As said, I don't have proof and if he denies it, husband will side with him and we will end up with another fight over difficult child most likely. Not wanting to go there. - I can let easy child tell difficult child it was an accident and let husband believe so too, but have a private talk with easy child and tell him that I know the truth, he knows it and if he doesn't want me to tell husband or difficult child he better make some amends to difficult child or - I can just let it play out. Let easy child tell difficult child it was an accident and pretend to believe it myself and let bad conscience do a disciplining for me. This would probably be a toughest way for easy child, because here he [B]is [/B]very different from difficult child. While breaking something behind a back of a person you are envious, angry or something with would be very difficult child thing to do, he would very strongly believe it is that other person's fault all together and it would need a lot of talking and coaching to make him take accountability. But easy child will feel really bad over this and it will eat him alive he has done something like this to difficult child. I'm not really liking any of my options. :sigh: [/QUOTE]
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