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Sick of difficult child using divorce as her excuse...still!
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 58162" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I'm sort of in the minority here, but I feel that often therapists hurt more than help, at least traditional therapists (I prefer Cogntive Behavioral Therapy that works on how to deal with life rather than rehashing the past ad nauseum). I never did get helped by sitting and recounting all the ills of my past, in fact it made me feel both validated that I had a right to be angry and it also made me feel hopeless--as if it was written in the clouds somewhere that because "A" happened, I will never be a whole person. Sensitivity to abusive substances, including alcohol, is inherited. More kids of alcoholics substance abuse than those who don't. They also get addicted more quickly and readily. If it were me, and it's your decision, I would want to find a psychologist who focuses more on how to deal with anger and emotions, not one who fixates on the past over and over again, even bringing DEX into the picture. in my opinion that will only cause more unsettled feelings and still not help your child have skills to work on dealing with his emotions. I believe some people ARE more resilient than others and that it's largely genetic, which is why some kids from the same homes and same circumstances react in differing ways to stress. I have adopted kids and as soon as I bring the kids for any help at all, they hone right in on adoption as if it can't be caused by anything else. I find it unhelpful. If you have never looked into Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, sort of Common Sense Therapy, maybe you'd want to do that. Even if you want the type of therapy you're getting for your child, if you feel that the particular therapist isn't right for you, I recommend switching until you find one you like. One last question: Is she in AA or in any therapy to address her drinking? I think that may help to focus on this particular behavior. Even if she's not there yet, those organizations address problem drinking and binging is a red flag for alcoholism...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 58162, member: 1550"] I'm sort of in the minority here, but I feel that often therapists hurt more than help, at least traditional therapists (I prefer Cogntive Behavioral Therapy that works on how to deal with life rather than rehashing the past ad nauseum). I never did get helped by sitting and recounting all the ills of my past, in fact it made me feel both validated that I had a right to be angry and it also made me feel hopeless--as if it was written in the clouds somewhere that because "A" happened, I will never be a whole person. Sensitivity to abusive substances, including alcohol, is inherited. More kids of alcoholics substance abuse than those who don't. They also get addicted more quickly and readily. If it were me, and it's your decision, I would want to find a psychologist who focuses more on how to deal with anger and emotions, not one who fixates on the past over and over again, even bringing DEX into the picture. in my opinion that will only cause more unsettled feelings and still not help your child have skills to work on dealing with his emotions. I believe some people ARE more resilient than others and that it's largely genetic, which is why some kids from the same homes and same circumstances react in differing ways to stress. I have adopted kids and as soon as I bring the kids for any help at all, they hone right in on adoption as if it can't be caused by anything else. I find it unhelpful. If you have never looked into Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, sort of Common Sense Therapy, maybe you'd want to do that. Even if you want the type of therapy you're getting for your child, if you feel that the particular therapist isn't right for you, I recommend switching until you find one you like. One last question: Is she in AA or in any therapy to address her drinking? I think that may help to focus on this particular behavior. Even if she's not there yet, those organizations address problem drinking and binging is a red flag for alcoholism... [/QUOTE]
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