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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 332337"><p>We sent our son to a TBS in 12 grade and it was a controversial move because his behaviors were not as severe as many others who go due to these problems, nor were they going on for very long. However, he was about to turn 18, and we felt that we had to do something....and made the move.</p><p></p><p>Ironically, the owner of the program was acting in a weird manner and we later found out he had a drinking problem (at the time...may have gotten treatment since then).</p><p></p><p>One thing that stood out for us is that he treated our son differently than others. The rules were not the same. HE was harsher with our son. Another person in charge did something similar. </p><p></p><p>IN my mind this was not appropriate. Rules should be consistent.</p><p></p><p>It was a new program and some of the "kinks" had to be worked out. One problem they had was that they did not have a physician on site nor did they have quick access to one. </p><p></p><p>However, they rectified that fairly quickly...and brought in a psychiatrist weekly (or for whatever was needed) for an additional fee (of course).</p><p></p><p>The problem with the owner singling out our son got so bad, our son left early. It was a toss up between whether he was kicked out or whether we pulled him out. IN the end, they wanted him back...but husband would not have it.</p><p></p><p>The weird thing about it all, is even with all the craziness, he DID benefit from the program. The group therapy helped him a lot and his counselor there was very good.</p><p></p><p>We brought him home after about 9 months and he saw a very good therapist for a relatively short time and this also helped. Today our son is dong very well.</p><p></p><p>His situation was so very unusual. </p><p></p><p>For us, it was a matter of speaking up when we were very sure that things were not as they should be, but keeping quiet when we were not sure. We also praised the staff when they were helpful. Additionally, we got input from professionals locally.</p><p></p><p>It is a very very tough call...very confusing to be sure.</p><p></p><p>It's good that you got a list of things to watch for. Some things on the surface seem out of line, but not truly be "out of line." Confrontations might be acceptable, but there are lines that should not be crossed...like physical abuse. </p><p></p><p>Staff might chose to monitor conversations and/or mail for good reason. Perhaps in time, privacy privleges can be earned back. (I'm not an expert on this...but that would seem healthy to me). </p><p></p><p>I really don't see anything wrong with physical labor (cleaning, etc.) as long as it is not excessive, long term and as long as everyone gets the same consequences.</p><p></p><p>AGain, even in an imperfect situation, our son did very well. Today, he is a very responsible, happy young man and we know we did the right thing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 332337"] We sent our son to a TBS in 12 grade and it was a controversial move because his behaviors were not as severe as many others who go due to these problems, nor were they going on for very long. However, he was about to turn 18, and we felt that we had to do something....and made the move. Ironically, the owner of the program was acting in a weird manner and we later found out he had a drinking problem (at the time...may have gotten treatment since then). One thing that stood out for us is that he treated our son differently than others. The rules were not the same. HE was harsher with our son. Another person in charge did something similar. IN my mind this was not appropriate. Rules should be consistent. It was a new program and some of the "kinks" had to be worked out. One problem they had was that they did not have a physician on site nor did they have quick access to one. However, they rectified that fairly quickly...and brought in a psychiatrist weekly (or for whatever was needed) for an additional fee (of course). The problem with the owner singling out our son got so bad, our son left early. It was a toss up between whether he was kicked out or whether we pulled him out. IN the end, they wanted him back...but husband would not have it. The weird thing about it all, is even with all the craziness, he DID benefit from the program. The group therapy helped him a lot and his counselor there was very good. We brought him home after about 9 months and he saw a very good therapist for a relatively short time and this also helped. Today our son is dong very well. His situation was so very unusual. For us, it was a matter of speaking up when we were very sure that things were not as they should be, but keeping quiet when we were not sure. We also praised the staff when they were helpful. Additionally, we got input from professionals locally. It is a very very tough call...very confusing to be sure. It's good that you got a list of things to watch for. Some things on the surface seem out of line, but not truly be "out of line." Confrontations might be acceptable, but there are lines that should not be crossed...like physical abuse. Staff might chose to monitor conversations and/or mail for good reason. Perhaps in time, privacy privleges can be earned back. (I'm not an expert on this...but that would seem healthy to me). I really don't see anything wrong with physical labor (cleaning, etc.) as long as it is not excessive, long term and as long as everyone gets the same consequences. AGain, even in an imperfect situation, our son did very well. Today, he is a very responsible, happy young man and we know we did the right thing. [/QUOTE]
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