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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 332346" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>I do not believe this organization is anti Residential Treatment Center (RTC) - it a non profit that is dedicated to help us recognize warning signs. That is all this list is, warning signs. If we do not feel the signs are a warning, than we move on. It is meant to educate and help people. We need to not minimize or rationalize warning signs, and look at them head on. It is only when we face them head on that we can decide if abuse is going on.</p><p></p><p>I was in "the best" facility for 6 months when I was 16. Nationwide, renowned. My parents believed everything that the staff told them. They did everything they told them to do. Theyy bit into it hook line and sinker. Because they did, I watched the most horrific abuse. Physical, mental - I think the mental was the worst. Despite 10 years of therapy I still have flashbacks, and it has been 25 years.</p><p></p><p>Matt almost died when he was 12 by being improperly restrained. I went to pick him up and his face was blue. All of the blood vessels from the neck up into the face had exploded. </p><p></p><p>I do not think this list is a be all end all - I think it serves as reminders that something<em> could </em>be going on. For instance, no phone calls could be the programs attempt to cover up abuse. Or it could greatly benefit all parties. That is what this list was about - things a program <em>could</em> do to cover up - which should serve as our warning signs to dig deeper.</p><p></p><p>All was great with Matt's program until out of the blue they severed all phone contact with me, except a once a week supervised call. We went from talking every single day, unsupervised, to once a week supervised - in one day. Now this could be absolutely nothing - or they could be trying to suddenly cover up something. How would I know, because Matt would have no way to tell me if something was going on. He has no access to a phone or a way to write unsupervised letters, and I am not allowed to see him. </p><p></p><p>We can never be too careful, or minimize, or diminish warning signs. I do not mean to scare people. or scare them out of putting their kid in a program - I am only trying to make us all more aware and wiser. If you agree and consent for these things to happen as part of your kids treatment, than that is perfect. It is when you are not consenting or are being manipulated into conforming to their rules against your will, that it is a warning sign.</p><p></p><p>Mentally ill kids are some of the most abused kids out there, because their illness is so provocative. As part of being a warrior mom, we have to also protect them from this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 332346, member: 3301"] I do not believe this organization is anti Residential Treatment Center (RTC) - it a non profit that is dedicated to help us recognize warning signs. That is all this list is, warning signs. If we do not feel the signs are a warning, than we move on. It is meant to educate and help people. We need to not minimize or rationalize warning signs, and look at them head on. It is only when we face them head on that we can decide if abuse is going on. I was in "the best" facility for 6 months when I was 16. Nationwide, renowned. My parents believed everything that the staff told them. They did everything they told them to do. Theyy bit into it hook line and sinker. Because they did, I watched the most horrific abuse. Physical, mental - I think the mental was the worst. Despite 10 years of therapy I still have flashbacks, and it has been 25 years. Matt almost died when he was 12 by being improperly restrained. I went to pick him up and his face was blue. All of the blood vessels from the neck up into the face had exploded. I do not think this list is a be all end all - I think it serves as reminders that something[I] could [/I]be going on. For instance, no phone calls could be the programs attempt to cover up abuse. Or it could greatly benefit all parties. That is what this list was about - things a program [I]could[/I] do to cover up - which should serve as our warning signs to dig deeper. All was great with Matt's program until out of the blue they severed all phone contact with me, except a once a week supervised call. We went from talking every single day, unsupervised, to once a week supervised - in one day. Now this could be absolutely nothing - or they could be trying to suddenly cover up something. How would I know, because Matt would have no way to tell me if something was going on. He has no access to a phone or a way to write unsupervised letters, and I am not allowed to see him. We can never be too careful, or minimize, or diminish warning signs. I do not mean to scare people. or scare them out of putting their kid in a program - I am only trying to make us all more aware and wiser. If you agree and consent for these things to happen as part of your kids treatment, than that is perfect. It is when you are not consenting or are being manipulated into conforming to their rules against your will, that it is a warning sign. Mentally ill kids are some of the most abused kids out there, because their illness is so provocative. As part of being a warrior mom, we have to also protect them from this. [/QUOTE]
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