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<blockquote data-quote="nlj" data-source="post: 648666" data-attributes="member: 17650"><p>Hello</p><p></p><p>I think I remember you posting about this a few months ago?</p><p>I'm sorry you are still suffering and worrying about your son away in uni.</p><p>I think being away at uni for the first time can be difficult, especially for those who may be feeling insecure or homesick or have doubts about their course.</p><p>I think I would telephone the Student Welfare Officer, rather than waiting for a reply to an e-mail. If there is no response I would keep on phoning until I got through to someone who would listen to me.</p><p>Do you know the name of your son's personal tutor? As well as his lecturers, your son should have a personal tutor who should be aware of how your son is getting on generally.</p><p></p><p>I note that you say that this could be a power thing, with your son wanting you to worry about him. This could be true. I have experienced this with my difficult son and also with my mother (who is a very difficult person). Probably many more parents on this site have also experienced this. I think the advice is to phone the police if there are any actual suicide threats. (MWM was it you who says this? I think you posted some very good reasons for doing this, but I can't remember the details). Not hearing at all is such a worry. My mind rushes off in its own direction when this happens and I seem to have no control over my thoughts of panic and sadness.</p><p></p><p>I would try phoning the university again tomorrow and do not be put off. Even though you have had no direct threats of suicide, you have valid reasons for getting someone to check on your son as he has been having suicidal thoughts and you need to have peace of mind. There must be a students' medical officer or nurse that you could contact with your worries also?</p><p></p><p>It's pointless to say "don't worry" I know. Worrying is what mothers do best!</p><p></p><p>Let us know how you get on.</p><p>Thinking of you.</p><p></p><p>Are you in the UK?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nlj, post: 648666, member: 17650"] Hello I think I remember you posting about this a few months ago? I'm sorry you are still suffering and worrying about your son away in uni. I think being away at uni for the first time can be difficult, especially for those who may be feeling insecure or homesick or have doubts about their course. I think I would telephone the Student Welfare Officer, rather than waiting for a reply to an e-mail. If there is no response I would keep on phoning until I got through to someone who would listen to me. Do you know the name of your son's personal tutor? As well as his lecturers, your son should have a personal tutor who should be aware of how your son is getting on generally. I note that you say that this could be a power thing, with your son wanting you to worry about him. This could be true. I have experienced this with my difficult son and also with my mother (who is a very difficult person). Probably many more parents on this site have also experienced this. I think the advice is to phone the police if there are any actual suicide threats. (MWM was it you who says this? I think you posted some very good reasons for doing this, but I can't remember the details). Not hearing at all is such a worry. My mind rushes off in its own direction when this happens and I seem to have no control over my thoughts of panic and sadness. I would try phoning the university again tomorrow and do not be put off. Even though you have had no direct threats of suicide, you have valid reasons for getting someone to check on your son as he has been having suicidal thoughts and you need to have peace of mind. There must be a students' medical officer or nurse that you could contact with your worries also? It's pointless to say "don't worry" I know. Worrying is what mothers do best! Let us know how you get on. Thinking of you. Are you in the UK? [/QUOTE]
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