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Simultaneous emotional highs and lows for wife, and me
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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 436710" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Please thank your father in law for me for his service to our country. Because of men like him? My family and I have a safe place to live, and be free. He is a hero to me as well, as are all veterans. I am terribly sorry for your impending loss and send my deepest gratitude and heartfelt sympathies for what your wife and family are facing. </p><p></p><p>For the birth of your first Grandson however? How very ironic that while one hero leaves this earth, another is soon to come and take his place! I believe that will make him all the more special a person in your family. The fact that you can not be there? Well, perhaps this job will be over soon allowing you to go spend really wonderful time with him and your family. I really think this is just the distraction your wife will need at this point in her life. She's come so far in her detachment, and tough love. Kudos to you for standing by her too! I think we all know how tough it's been on both of you. </p><p></p><p>With regards to your daughter? Sad to say that she'll miss so many life changing events that she will never be able to have that particular time back in her life to say hello, say goodbye - but sometimes? This is not such a bad thing you know? When our Steven died, Dude was supposed to be a pall bearer at his funeral and was so distraught he couldn't even attend. The depression and grief were more than he could bear. We didn't force him, and explained to him there will never be another time to have another funeral, another chance to carry your brother, another chance to have a do-over. He seemed to understand, but since has been dealing with wondering if Steven was/is upset with him not being there - which we know is a cop-out for his own emotions of not showing up. It's something he'll have to deal with and remember for the rest of his life. It's taken nearly two years for him to come to grips with his decision, and while outwardly you can't see the depression? Inwardly it's a grim reminder, and hard reminder that we only get ONE chance in life to do things that are one time occasions. </p><p></p><p>Maybe there is a lesson in this for your daughter that is far greater than her attending either event? One can hope - eternal. </p><p></p><p>Take care HWGA - both you and wife - </p><p>Hugs </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 436710, member: 4964"] Please thank your father in law for me for his service to our country. Because of men like him? My family and I have a safe place to live, and be free. He is a hero to me as well, as are all veterans. I am terribly sorry for your impending loss and send my deepest gratitude and heartfelt sympathies for what your wife and family are facing. For the birth of your first Grandson however? How very ironic that while one hero leaves this earth, another is soon to come and take his place! I believe that will make him all the more special a person in your family. The fact that you can not be there? Well, perhaps this job will be over soon allowing you to go spend really wonderful time with him and your family. I really think this is just the distraction your wife will need at this point in her life. She's come so far in her detachment, and tough love. Kudos to you for standing by her too! I think we all know how tough it's been on both of you. With regards to your daughter? Sad to say that she'll miss so many life changing events that she will never be able to have that particular time back in her life to say hello, say goodbye - but sometimes? This is not such a bad thing you know? When our Steven died, Dude was supposed to be a pall bearer at his funeral and was so distraught he couldn't even attend. The depression and grief were more than he could bear. We didn't force him, and explained to him there will never be another time to have another funeral, another chance to carry your brother, another chance to have a do-over. He seemed to understand, but since has been dealing with wondering if Steven was/is upset with him not being there - which we know is a cop-out for his own emotions of not showing up. It's something he'll have to deal with and remember for the rest of his life. It's taken nearly two years for him to come to grips with his decision, and while outwardly you can't see the depression? Inwardly it's a grim reminder, and hard reminder that we only get ONE chance in life to do things that are one time occasions. Maybe there is a lesson in this for your daughter that is far greater than her attending either event? One can hope - eternal. Take care HWGA - both you and wife - Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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