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Since the topic came up, do you feel you were too harsh with your child as a child?
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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 623543" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>This is an amazing thread. I almost "cut and pasted" almost every post to say "me too! I did that too! I felt that too! and difficult child (or ex hubby) did that too". </p><p></p><p>Even when the posts were diametrically opposite.</p><p></p><p>difficult child is a twin. He was harder IN THE WOMB. With twins you have to have nonstress testing starting at 30 weeks to be sure they are growing...they can't just measure your belly, cause one might be growing and the other not. easy child twin would pass in about 7 minutes (they have 20). difficult child would fail every time and I had to go on to ultrasound, add on appointment, wait for hours. Every week. </p><p></p><p>He had trouble nursing. Had trouble self soothing. Talked late. Poor fine motor. No handedness. She rocketed forward full of determination to grow up.</p><p></p><p>We loved him tons, he was so cute and happy and kind of dorky. We started speech therapy at 2, occupational therapy at 3. Maybe we made him feel he was not "OK". But he also seemed to like the attention of earnest young women who seem to make up the population of therapists.</p><p></p><p>At some point he became annoying...he was like the lightening rod. If ANYone was getting on our nerves difficult child would escalate and he would be the one yelled at. A lot of yelling...one of my younger easy child's says that he hallucninates the sound of yelling in another room when he has a fever. My daughter says her memories of childhood are marked by us yelling at difficult child in the mornings (he was impossible to get up and out of bed and off to school--and we both worked, so we would be desperate about being late ourselves, and desperate and guilty about not having a pleasant send off for the others).</p><p></p><p>Therapy IEPs family vacations family dinners. Yelling at the dinner table, yelling in the morning, yelling over homework. He and I got season sports tkts together and went to every game. His dad took him for bike rides and pancakes every Saturday. What hurt and what helped? I certainly did absolutely everything I could think of to help him.</p><p></p><p>I wish I hadn't yelled so much.</p><p></p><p>And I hit him and grabbed him and once pulled his hair sometimes too. I am very very very ashamed of those times. </p><p></p><p>Did he do it to me or did I do it to him?</p><p></p><p>Yes, I was too hard on him</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 623543, member: 17269"] This is an amazing thread. I almost "cut and pasted" almost every post to say "me too! I did that too! I felt that too! and difficult child (or ex hubby) did that too". Even when the posts were diametrically opposite. difficult child is a twin. He was harder IN THE WOMB. With twins you have to have nonstress testing starting at 30 weeks to be sure they are growing...they can't just measure your belly, cause one might be growing and the other not. easy child twin would pass in about 7 minutes (they have 20). difficult child would fail every time and I had to go on to ultrasound, add on appointment, wait for hours. Every week. He had trouble nursing. Had trouble self soothing. Talked late. Poor fine motor. No handedness. She rocketed forward full of determination to grow up. We loved him tons, he was so cute and happy and kind of dorky. We started speech therapy at 2, occupational therapy at 3. Maybe we made him feel he was not "OK". But he also seemed to like the attention of earnest young women who seem to make up the population of therapists. At some point he became annoying...he was like the lightening rod. If ANYone was getting on our nerves difficult child would escalate and he would be the one yelled at. A lot of yelling...one of my younger easy child's says that he hallucninates the sound of yelling in another room when he has a fever. My daughter says her memories of childhood are marked by us yelling at difficult child in the mornings (he was impossible to get up and out of bed and off to school--and we both worked, so we would be desperate about being late ourselves, and desperate and guilty about not having a pleasant send off for the others). Therapy IEPs family vacations family dinners. Yelling at the dinner table, yelling in the morning, yelling over homework. He and I got season sports tkts together and went to every game. His dad took him for bike rides and pancakes every Saturday. What hurt and what helped? I certainly did absolutely everything I could think of to help him. I wish I hadn't yelled so much. And I hit him and grabbed him and once pulled his hair sometimes too. I am very very very ashamed of those times. Did he do it to me or did I do it to him? Yes, I was too hard on him Echo [/QUOTE]
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