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single mom at a loss with my 17 year old son
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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 465217" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>Hello and welcome to our forum. I am very sorry for your situation and I know the pain you are in and the difficulty of the decisions. We have been through our own private purgatory with our now 17 year old daughter. I agree about depression. He is self medicating, most drug users are. I'm glad you have an intake soon. I recommend asking to get to someone who can give antidepressants. Many regular doctors have experience and will do this if they know you will be seeing mental health professionals. You might want to go that route in the three weeks you are waiting. It takes time to even get the right medications and doses. The problem is that once they start using physical intimidation-you have lost much control unless the law is involved. He now knows that he has this power. I don't know if he was scared by the police or not-hopefully he was and it will stop this. Our daughter is not scared by them-she knows all the laws and how to fly under the radar. I would pull the plug on everything but the basics. I personally would let the coach know whats going on-I get how important ball is to him and the fact that it could get him through school, but maybe the coach can help? I think it is more than generous that you give him the one bedroom. If I wasn't worried about what he may do to you in anger, I would tell you to put him on the couch.</p><p>You have done the best you can. Guilt is an emotion I know well, and it gets one nowhere. Hindsight is 20/20, and in the end you cannot control anybody but yourself, so your best thought out plans....they can be trashed by a kid who just isn't in his right mind. He is lucky to have a caring parent at all. Adversity can make us stronger, and with some of our kids, they just don't seem to have the resilience to learn and pull through. Depression can really stop the pulling through.</p><p>Know that you have support and keep us posted. Hang in there. Hugs!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 465217, member: 11001"] Hello and welcome to our forum. I am very sorry for your situation and I know the pain you are in and the difficulty of the decisions. We have been through our own private purgatory with our now 17 year old daughter. I agree about depression. He is self medicating, most drug users are. I'm glad you have an intake soon. I recommend asking to get to someone who can give antidepressants. Many regular doctors have experience and will do this if they know you will be seeing mental health professionals. You might want to go that route in the three weeks you are waiting. It takes time to even get the right medications and doses. The problem is that once they start using physical intimidation-you have lost much control unless the law is involved. He now knows that he has this power. I don't know if he was scared by the police or not-hopefully he was and it will stop this. Our daughter is not scared by them-she knows all the laws and how to fly under the radar. I would pull the plug on everything but the basics. I personally would let the coach know whats going on-I get how important ball is to him and the fact that it could get him through school, but maybe the coach can help? I think it is more than generous that you give him the one bedroom. If I wasn't worried about what he may do to you in anger, I would tell you to put him on the couch. You have done the best you can. Guilt is an emotion I know well, and it gets one nowhere. Hindsight is 20/20, and in the end you cannot control anybody but yourself, so your best thought out plans....they can be trashed by a kid who just isn't in his right mind. He is lucky to have a caring parent at all. Adversity can make us stronger, and with some of our kids, they just don't seem to have the resilience to learn and pull through. Depression can really stop the pulling through. Know that you have support and keep us posted. Hang in there. Hugs! [/QUOTE]
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