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single mom at a loss with my 17 year old son
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 472525" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Welcome aboard. Just another who has been there done that and who truly feels your pain. We, too, had a star athlete and gifted academic student who "went south" when his bioDad literally left town with no notice. I am still angry that his paternal Christian family didn't take five minutes for a warning phone call. That happened ten years ago and we have been on a terrible rollercoaster with drugs, alcohol and then issues with the law. We found and sent him to three rehab centers. Early on we find an outstanding therapist whom he trusted and liked. We have an awesome Psychiatrist whom he has met with over the years and who, at one time, prescribed antidepresants.</p><p></p><p>Fortunately for us he has never shown aggression toward us and is 99% respectful and loving in his interactions with us. Over the years I found that pot was not the only issue when he was younger, he was also popping pills and drinking. I won't go on and on but he did sustain Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) damage over five years ago when he was visiting friends at a University a couple of hours away.</p><p></p><p>So...I guess the bottom line of advice and support I'm offering is that <strong>he</strong> has to want to change his behaviors. by the way, has he changed friends? Usually that happens and is a big sign of personal redefinition. If he is not motivated to change his lifestyle there is not much you can do but provide the offer of outside help. Regarding the violence...I suggest that you make it 100% clear that there will never be another instance with-o full charges. He must know that you will not tolerate it. Yes, those who have been in your position usually cried for days after the police took their child away but <strong>zero</strong> tolerance has to be your mantra for your safety and for him. Many hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 472525, member: 35"] Welcome aboard. Just another who has been there done that and who truly feels your pain. We, too, had a star athlete and gifted academic student who "went south" when his bioDad literally left town with no notice. I am still angry that his paternal Christian family didn't take five minutes for a warning phone call. That happened ten years ago and we have been on a terrible rollercoaster with drugs, alcohol and then issues with the law. We found and sent him to three rehab centers. Early on we find an outstanding therapist whom he trusted and liked. We have an awesome Psychiatrist whom he has met with over the years and who, at one time, prescribed antidepresants. Fortunately for us he has never shown aggression toward us and is 99% respectful and loving in his interactions with us. Over the years I found that pot was not the only issue when he was younger, he was also popping pills and drinking. I won't go on and on but he did sustain Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) damage over five years ago when he was visiting friends at a University a couple of hours away. So...I guess the bottom line of advice and support I'm offering is that [B]he[/B] has to want to change his behaviors. by the way, has he changed friends? Usually that happens and is a big sign of personal redefinition. If he is not motivated to change his lifestyle there is not much you can do but provide the offer of outside help. Regarding the violence...I suggest that you make it 100% clear that there will never be another instance with-o full charges. He must know that you will not tolerate it. Yes, those who have been in your position usually cried for days after the police took their child away but [B]zero[/B] tolerance has to be your mantra for your safety and for him. Many hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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