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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 567370" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Hi and Welcome! Regardless of whatever is diagnosed, you have found a place where parents 'get it' that kids often are beyond the 'normal' standards of unruly - something many people just cannot understand. </p><p></p><p>If your real name is the one used as your screen name, please change it. This board is seen by all sorts of people and identifying info can and will make you a target. Plus if your kids can identify themselves, this could cause problems.</p><p></p><p>I do think your son needs a full evaluation if you want to figure out what is behind the problems. You say he was evaluated, but by whom and what did they do? We recommend full neuropsychologist evaluation, plus Occupational Therapist (OT) for Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) and full evaluation for auditory processing disorders AND a drug/alcohol evaluation to see if that is part of his problem.</p><p></p><p>If you follow the link in my sig, you wll get to a thread about a Parent Report. This is a document that YOU create that is ALLLLLL about your child. in my opinion it is one of the best weapons you have in your arsenal as you seek help for your child.</p><p></p><p>I do think you may need to draw a line. Where does his father live and what involvement does he have? Could your son go live with him? </p><p></p><p>As far as mornings, ice water is the BEST. My bro always had trouble getting up. His last year in high school he actually paid me to go in and pour ice water on him every morning. I got a dollar a day to do that, five bucks if I had to make a second trip. The first time was just a dribble, the second? He had to air out the cushions. He refused to sleep on a bed, so he had put an old couch in the room, so it was cushions and not a mattress. I wouldn't have odne it if he slept on a bed, because from the time he was a toddler, if you touched him in his sleep he punched you - with-o ever waking up. Nothing broke him of that until he discovered that some girls wanted to spend the night, not just a little while. I kept a jar of water in the fridge, and put ice in it every morning so it was very very cold.</p><p></p><p>We tried all sorts of alarms and NONE worked. My dad is very good with electronics, etc... and he even amped up an alarm clock to a ridiculous volume. It woke ME up but not bro. So we ued water.</p><p></p><p>If your other kids are afraid of him, or upset by him, they have the right to a peaceful home and to not be afraid in that home. It may be that he is better off with his father - even though that will be hard for you. My son used to be so violent that we had no choice but to get him out of the home. He ended up with my parents, and he managed to turn himself around completely. We are very proud of him, and hope that he continues to be happy and successful in life. I miss him terribly, and see him when he makes time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 567370, member: 1233"] Hi and Welcome! Regardless of whatever is diagnosed, you have found a place where parents 'get it' that kids often are beyond the 'normal' standards of unruly - something many people just cannot understand. If your real name is the one used as your screen name, please change it. This board is seen by all sorts of people and identifying info can and will make you a target. Plus if your kids can identify themselves, this could cause problems. I do think your son needs a full evaluation if you want to figure out what is behind the problems. You say he was evaluated, but by whom and what did they do? We recommend full neuropsychologist evaluation, plus Occupational Therapist (OT) for Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) and full evaluation for auditory processing disorders AND a drug/alcohol evaluation to see if that is part of his problem. If you follow the link in my sig, you wll get to a thread about a Parent Report. This is a document that YOU create that is ALLLLLL about your child. in my opinion it is one of the best weapons you have in your arsenal as you seek help for your child. I do think you may need to draw a line. Where does his father live and what involvement does he have? Could your son go live with him? As far as mornings, ice water is the BEST. My bro always had trouble getting up. His last year in high school he actually paid me to go in and pour ice water on him every morning. I got a dollar a day to do that, five bucks if I had to make a second trip. The first time was just a dribble, the second? He had to air out the cushions. He refused to sleep on a bed, so he had put an old couch in the room, so it was cushions and not a mattress. I wouldn't have odne it if he slept on a bed, because from the time he was a toddler, if you touched him in his sleep he punched you - with-o ever waking up. Nothing broke him of that until he discovered that some girls wanted to spend the night, not just a little while. I kept a jar of water in the fridge, and put ice in it every morning so it was very very cold. We tried all sorts of alarms and NONE worked. My dad is very good with electronics, etc... and he even amped up an alarm clock to a ridiculous volume. It woke ME up but not bro. So we ued water. If your other kids are afraid of him, or upset by him, they have the right to a peaceful home and to not be afraid in that home. It may be that he is better off with his father - even though that will be hard for you. My son used to be so violent that we had no choice but to get him out of the home. He ended up with my parents, and he managed to turn himself around completely. We are very proud of him, and hope that he continues to be happy and successful in life. I miss him terribly, and see him when he makes time. [/QUOTE]
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