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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 567619" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Growing up with a narcicistic father (I had to) is very difficult. The father is more interested in what the child can do to make HIM shine than about his child's happiness. All my dad ever cared about was what WE could do to make him able to brag about us. We fell short, in his eyes. Maybe this ND (narcisitic dad) is furious that athletically talented son quit sports and thinks it was a way to stick it to HIM, which he can't tolerate, since the center of ND's universe is him. Like my own father, he is obviously fine not seeing his kids. I don't even have many memories of my dad as he was very disinterested in my girl activities and never cared what was going on in my life unless it could give him something to brag about to his friends (of whom he had very few).</p><p></p><p>Be careful. Personality disorders can run in families. The "why" of it is puzzling to professionals. They are starting to feel that part of it is genetic, but some of it is obviously having to deal with a self-absorbed and sub-par parent...and it hurts! </p><p></p><p>Reading your explanation of your ex, plus seeing his diagnosis, riled me up because I feel for your children. It is IMPOSSIBLE to please a narcissist unless you are kissing their feet, doing exactly what THEY want, and lavishing the ND with praise about how wonderful he is. I feel badly for your sons. I wish I had more helpful words of wisdom. I don't, but therapy probably can help all of your kids deal with this selfish man.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 567619, member: 1550"] Growing up with a narcicistic father (I had to) is very difficult. The father is more interested in what the child can do to make HIM shine than about his child's happiness. All my dad ever cared about was what WE could do to make him able to brag about us. We fell short, in his eyes. Maybe this ND (narcisitic dad) is furious that athletically talented son quit sports and thinks it was a way to stick it to HIM, which he can't tolerate, since the center of ND's universe is him. Like my own father, he is obviously fine not seeing his kids. I don't even have many memories of my dad as he was very disinterested in my girl activities and never cared what was going on in my life unless it could give him something to brag about to his friends (of whom he had very few). Be careful. Personality disorders can run in families. The "why" of it is puzzling to professionals. They are starting to feel that part of it is genetic, but some of it is obviously having to deal with a self-absorbed and sub-par parent...and it hurts! Reading your explanation of your ex, plus seeing his diagnosis, riled me up because I feel for your children. It is IMPOSSIBLE to please a narcissist unless you are kissing their feet, doing exactly what THEY want, and lavishing the ND with praise about how wonderful he is. I feel badly for your sons. I wish I had more helpful words of wisdom. I don't, but therapy probably can help all of your kids deal with this selfish man. [/QUOTE]
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